Originally Posted by Jibralta
This really does not look good, unfortunately. Mean spirited jokes, rolling of eyes--all signs of contempt. I don't know if you can fix contempt.
I was going to touch on this.

The greek definition of sarcasm is 'tearing of the flesh' So when someone close to you uses it repeatedly in a passive aggressive way to get their point across, it crosses over the line to abuse. That and rolling of the eyes. Thats disdain. . .or contempt.
It's all an attempt to wear you down.

Sorry. . I was in an emotionally abusive marraige. I learned all this the hard way. Alot of what you describe is pretty textbook

You've got some great advice here. Stay in therapy. Do it for yourself and your child.