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    What medical problems does she have?

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    M.E and recurring kidney infections. Along with a problem with her liver that I cannot remember the name of!

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    What is ME? Aside from disabled kids and her own medical problems it seems like she has too much to handle.
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    M.E and recurring kidney infections. Along with a problem with her liver that I cannot remember the name of!

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    All you can really do is give it some more time and see what happens.

    There is a reason why things that start off with a bang often don't pan out, and it's because people usually aren't diving in for the right reasons (hormones getting the best of them, filling a void, and so on). However, she hasn't called it off. It sounds like she really needed to reassess how fast everything was going and pump the brakes. And now her behaviour is reflecting her desire to slow down.

    If you find that she continues dodging calls and grows increasingly distant, then yes, I would assume she's had a change of heart. See how the next few weeks go and then re-evaluate if you two need to have another conversation.

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    Yeah kind of what I was thinking.
    I told her that I was concerned all my efforts at making it work would be for nothing as she didn't seem to reciprocate in any way.
    She told me not to worry and that all would be totally fine, and that she just wanted to keep things slow as she didn't want to take things fast, have it all go wrong and then have her kids wondering why some guy appeared and then vanished from their lives.

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    Is "ME" a condition that affects her judgement or stability?

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    I don't know a great deal about it but it makes her very very tired and withdrawn.

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    Ok so she has chronic fatigue syndrome, recurring urinary tract infections some sort of liver disease 2 disabled kids and you are wondering why she's so busy?

    The issues you describe do not really explain her poor judgement. Step away from all this and take a deep breath.

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    Not liver disease and the two children aren't classed as disabled. It's autism.
    I'm not wondering why she is so busy. I totally understand why she is so busy, I've witnessed it first hand and am totally sympathetic to that.
    It was moreso that at the start it was all good. spending time with each other, and much more like a relationahip now where she has said let's go slow, it's like it's come to a halt

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    Do you mean the sex slowed down?

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