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    So... confessed attraction, she didint respond, but...

    But she does things that sincerily i wouldnt with a platonic friend, specially one that felt attracted to me once.
    Like, for example, showing me a picture of her naked breast. She wanted to ask me if they were weird, so she sent me a picture.
    Im trying to racionalize, but i dont think this is appropiate for friends... i dont know... i believe she wants an ego boost in my expense, but maybe im wrong. But if i am not, what should i do? Getting Ready for a First Date

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    I have never shown my friends any part of me.

    I also suggest you give a lot more info. Your post has little for us to go on.

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    Originally Posted by Lauralatifa
    i believe she wants an ego boost in my expense, but maybe im wrong.
    I think you are probably correct.

    If I recall your previous thread, she didn't exactly respond enthusiastically when you said you have feelings for her. You might have to summon up the courage to simply ask her how she feels, OP. It might not be the answer you're hoping for, but at least you will not need to guess anymore.

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    I have never shown my friends any part of me.

    I also suggest you give a lot more info. Your post has little for us to go on.
    We’ve been friends for 2 years, very close friends... but o always had sexual interest... she knew that when we met, but as we got closer i decided to ignore it. But durona social distancing it is becoming very hard to ignore, and maybe im needy right now... anyway, i sometimes feel sexual tension between us, and have noticed she invades my personal space. Like once we were sitting next to each other and her leg was between mine. And strangers always think we are a couple. Some friends accused her of flirting with me in the past and she said she wasnt attracted to me. And when i said i felt attracted to her, she responded with awkward silence. Also, she was into a guy and got dumped, so maybe she was needing an ego boost?

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    Are you asking her out or dating? How do you know her?
    Originally Posted by Lauralatifa
    a picture of her naked breast. She wanted to ask me if they were weird, so she sent me a picture.

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    Originally Posted by Lauralatifa
    We’ve been friends for 2 years, very close friends... but o always had sexual interest... she knew that when we met, but as we got closer i decided to ignore it. But durona social distancing it is becoming very hard to ignore, and maybe im needy right now... anyway, i sometimes feel sexual tension between us, and have noticed she invades my personal space. Like once we were sitting next to each other and her leg was between mine. And strangers always think we are a couple. Some friends accused her of flirting with me in the past and she said she wasnt attracted to me. And when i said i felt attracted to her, she responded with awkward silence. Also, she was into a guy and got dumped, so maybe she was needing an ego boost?
    She is telling you the truth that you don't want to hear - your attraction to her is completely one sided.

    Overall, you can't really be friends with someone you want more from precisely because of what's happening. You desperately want more and try to read something into nothing and in the end, this is hurting you and stopping you from finding someone who actually wants to be with you.

    The other part of that is that yes, people will use you as an ego boost when they know that you are attracted to them, they aren't to you, but you continue to hang around. It creates this unbalanced and toxic dynamic, which will just lead to more pain and confusion for you.

    Step back from this friendship long enough that your crush dies off or even permanently if you must. It's the only way forward that will allow you to actually find what you crave - a real relationship with someone who is into you. The way you are stuck in this messy situation now....it makes it impossible, a vicious cycle and you must break it and break away from it to get what you so want. It just won't be with her in particular, but to find that someone special, you have to get rid of her and open up to that someone else.

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    Originally Posted by Lauralatifa
    Also, she was into a guy and got dumped, so maybe she was needing an ego boost?
    Yes, I think this girl enjoys your affection and attention but is not into you that way.

    Just to clarify - looking at your username, are you a woman as well?

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    Originally Posted by MissCanuck
    Yes, I think this girl enjoys your affection and attention but is not into you that way.

    Just to clarify - looking at your username, are you a woman as well?
    I agree with the wise MissCanuck.

    This girl is feeing the benefits of your attention and interest. She is teasing you and exploiting your feelings.

    She sounds very young. Is she? Are you?

    good people don't play with other people's feelings like this. She's not really a great friend.

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    Originally Posted by Lambert
    I agree with the wise MissCanuck.

    This girl is feeing the benefits of your attention and interest. She is teasing you and exploiting your feelings.

    She sounds very young. Is she? Are you?

    good people don't play with other people's feelings like this. She's not really a great friend.
    Yes. She is 21, and im 26. But what if she is doing this unconsciously? I know her and i know she wouldnt do it on purpúreo...

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    Sorry for the typos, i meant purpose

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