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Thread: Sometimes things arenít meant to be

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    Sometimes things arenít meant to be

    Today my boyfriend of a year and seven months broke up with me over messenger. He said due to Corona virus and it affecting us being apart he had time to reflect how weíre two different people.

    Heís not wrong I want a relationship thatís more settled where heís more of a nomad.

    Besides logistics though he never wanted to get engaged to me. He said he wasnít ready to be married. Iíve been down this road before and itís not my first rodeo where a guy leads me on but keeps making excuses to why he wonít commit. Iím just older and wiser to cut it off before it progresses any further.

    I know what I want and need out of a relationship and he just isnít going to give me those things and quite frankly Iím sick of hearing excuse after excuse.

    If a guy wants you heíll make it happen.

    If he wants to work on a relationship he wonít break up with you.

    Itís really that simple.

    So him breaking up with me over Facebook messenger shows I can do so much better!

    I know my worth. Iím not going to wait for someone to try to see it.

    I honestly feel relieved..it hurts worse in an odd way that his break up makes sense.

    We were always better off as friends.

    I wish him well.

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    When it's over, you know it. Sometimes life takes two people done different paths and they are only together for a little while, enriching each other's life and helping point you on to the one you are suppose to be with. limichelle, you know your worth and you know what you want. That puts you ahead of so many others. I have no doubt that good things are coming your way and that you will find your someone eventually, someone who wants the same things you do.

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    I'm so sorry you're hurting, Limichelle. Given your health issues, it sounds as though you've learned that life is too short to put up with anyone who's not all-in.

    My heart goes out to you, and I'm with you in spirit on appreciating your worth.

    Head high, and big (((HUG))).

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    I'm sorry and big hugs to you.

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    You are very wise, limichelle. Live and learn.

    I'm sorry for the break up and for him telling you over FB messenger.

    There is a better man out there for you and both of you deserve each other.

    You've handled yourself and him graciously which I commend you for.

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    I am so glad that you are free. Onwards.

    I'm not sure what you mean by better off as friends. Did he want to keep in touch with you?

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    onward and upward limichelle! (((hugs)))

    you do deserve better and you will find it.

    Emotions ebb and flow. We're here to listen.

    And boo on him doing it via messenger after all this time. I thought my ex sucked cause he called and didn't give me an in person conversation. But I guess, when someone isn't the one, they really aren't the one!


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    I'm so sorry, Lisa. One day at a time.

    *Hugs*

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    You'll find someone better but you know that! I am pleased to see the mature post you wrote, none of the whining and crying and oh my god, how do I get him back!!?? It's a relief to see someone confident enough to know they can carry on and life will improve.

    It was a crappy way for him to break up with you!

    Good luck!

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    Thank you everyone!

    As Iíve gotten older Iíve realized, I donít have time to waste on somebody who isnít sure about me.

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