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    I cant stand my daughters boyfriend

    Hi.
    My daughter is 21. Just finished uni with a good degree. Shes seeing this lad who is 26 and a complete waste of space. Works very little is absolutely bone idle. He was learning to drive. Why cant I even put up with him? I cant stand him.

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    Does she live at home? How long have they been dating? Is this her first BF?

    Try not to interfere, it will just push them closer. She'll get sick of him soon enough, so just bite your tongue for now.

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    Why such hate exactly? He might be a lousy choice to date, but your daughter has to learn that lesson on her own. Your hate will do nothing but drive her into his arms.

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    Knight.

    As others have said, just bite your tongue. She will have many more BFs over the years.

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    If you complain about him to her, that will drive her closer to him. Keep your mouth shut unless you suspect some type of abuse.

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    Here's a story of a little lamb....

    my parents could not stand my "first real relationship boyfriend" but they never said anything... Good or bad. I knew he was not liked. Little nieces and nephews are great for that. lol
    But my point is, they were letting me live my life and we had no words over it.

    Fast forward a couple years... Yes. Years. this little lamb learns the long way.... He was d-bag. truly. And only after the break up, did I learn my whole family agreed-- let's just pray little Lamb doesn't marry this one"

    You have to choose your battles. Trust your daughter to see the light. As a young adult, she has to go through things on her own and make her own decisions. Especially her romantic life.

    If you impose yourself on her, on this, it will back fire on you for sure. Trust this is the woman you raised.

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    You can let her know you disapprove but don't swing too harshly in the other direction. Giving no signals or feedback or remaining apathetic as a parent is not good either.

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    Quite so Lambert

    "If you impose yourself on her, on this, it will back fire on you for sure. Trust this is the woman you raised".

    And as DF said:

    "Your hate will do nothing but drive her into his arms."

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    You could let her know how you feel about him, but don't make it confrontational. She's 21 with a degree. She gets to make her own choices.

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    Indeed Sarah.

    I am betting the young lady has already got the vibe from her Dad! lol.

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