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Thread: One Bender Too Many

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    One Bender Too Many

    Since splitting up, I thought I was ok, all amicable etc.
    The thing is, at first having a few drunken benders with mates seemed ok. But it has evolved into me having benders at home by myself, maybe a couple per week. My behaviour is also risky and a worry when I am getting drunk, Iíve done some stupid things.
    So now Iím hung over, off work ďsickĒ, freaking out as last night I think I topped it all. Got blind at home, ordered an Uber to see an escort, withdrew $1000. I canít remember heaps, but, I recall thinking they stole some of my cash. So Iím nude saying loudly ďGive me back my mother f-in moneyĒ and a few other things at 2 escorts, I remember them taking a video of it and they sent it to someone via text. They would have been pretty scared, I feel horrible.
    Iím really worried of the potential ramifications, freaking out.
    Do other people make mistakes like this? Or am I just messed up? Will I be ok?
    And I clearly need to stop drinking, something I will address.

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    Maybe this is what AA calls "Rock bottom"?

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    Maybe this is what AA calls "Rock bottom"?
    Yeah, pretty messed up by my standards so Iím a bit rattled. I think itís unlikely there will be any future ramifications, but thereís a lot that could happen so Iím stressing at the thought of it.

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    What could happen?

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    What could happen?
    Extortion is my biggest concern, Iím pretty ashamed of the whole thing. Thereís always going to be the video somewhere.
    STD (I think it was safe, still risk).
    I dunno, I thought maybe someone could come after me for the way I carried on, but maybe thatís anxiety more so than a realistic scenario, nobody was hurt or anything I just carried on like a drunken head, thereís no benefit for them to do so.

    But thanks for asking the question, I get really anxious after drinking, feel a total mess at the moment.

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    You can get support and post your stories on AA sites. People most likely have been on the road you're on and can relate to you. You could get help there
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    You will be okay, but you will need to get the right kind of support in coping with your pain.

    Self-medicating with booze obviously isn't working, and it's leading to more problems. Do you think you can give up alcohol on your own?

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    They took the video most likely for self protection in case you become violent or try or do actually harm them. Evidence forwarded most likely to a friend in case things really get out of hand.

    You do need to get tested for STD's now and again in 3 months. No, it's not safe what you did.

    Stop drinking cold. Not even a drop from now on. If you can't, get professional help. Getting drunk once or twice over a break up is normal. What you are doing is way above and beyond and has to stop now, before you lose your job to boot.

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    You need to talk to someone right now. Try an online crisis counselor and do a facetime session or two. I think you will feel better once you have a one on one talk with someone. You are not an alcoholic....drinking isn't your problem, but the grief you have been holding back is. Once you deal with that, your need to drown your sorrows will be gone.

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    Don't wait until you end up in an ER or jail cell to start doing something.

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