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Thread: How do you deal with an inconsiderate/selfish younger brother?

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    How do you deal with an inconsiderate/selfish younger brother?

    So my younger brother (22 years old) has been getting on my nerves lately. My sister just recently moved out and while it was quiet for awhile, my brother now decided to move to her room which is upstairs on top of mine. He's a lazy kid who's getting paid to stay at home due to covid and his workplace is closed and enjoying the benefits of getting paid to stay home and doesn't even help my mom out in cleaning the house or running errands. I have to do it all even though I've worked a 10-12 hour shift.

    Everyday his gf comes over and all they do is hangout in my sister's old room all day. I come home from work and when I try to nap all I can hear is "thumping" noises from the bed, their voices, and my dogs barking cause a stranger is upstairs. I have told him to keep it down one night when the dog kept barking cause his gf was up there with him and he said ok.

    What I hate about him is that he's so inconsiderate, only cares about himself, doesn't do any chores around the house even though he's not working but getting paid by his employer. He even takes advantage of all the food my mom and I purchase. Last week I cooked for my parents and he didnt bother pitching in any money but he finished most of the food. I even made a separate Tupperware for me and that was gone before the next morning. Not a single thank you or anything or offer to pitch in for expenses.. Last night he ordered drinks delivered to our house from Jamba Juice for him and his gf only and didnt bother asking me or my parents if we wanted anything.

    Im pretty fed up with him so I will no longer be cooking for him since he doesn't even say thanks or pitch in for the expenses. I still got a year till I move out as I'm still saving money. How would you guys bare with this little brother of mine in the meantime?

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    Why do your parents put up with it?

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    Nothing in your post says that you cooked for him.
    You said you cooked for your parents last week. Once!! Only?
    Who is cooking the rest of the week? For you??

    According to you , you are doing all of the cleaning and helping with errands for your mum?
    Does your dad help out at all?

    You claim the dog is barking at a stranger? Your brothers gf is not a stranger. Unless they only met in the last couple of weeks? Have you taken your dog to see a vet for this odd behaviour?

    Sounds like you are a bit jealous that your brother canít work right now?
    Are you not glad that you are earning your normal income during this time?

    I assume you are paying rent to your parents? And your brother also?

    If you arenít paying the going lodger rate as a full time worker , then you have nothing to complain about.

    Please clarify?

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    Unfortunately you are too old to live at home. At 30+ you need to get your own place. You claim you work full time, so it's time to cut the apron strings and get a place and a life of your own.

    Your parents are allowing your kid brother to "make noise" with his GF and that annoys you. Tell your parents. Thier house thier crazy rules.

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    The reason everyone in your entire household has been bothering you for a few years is because you are too old to be there.

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    What is preventing you from moving out and getting your own place?

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    Originally Posted by ~Seraphim ~
    The reason everyone in your entire household has been bothering you for a few years is because you are too old to be there.
    I second this. When you don't like your roommates, find a better living situation and go there.

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    I dont think there's anything wrong with the dog. He hears noises so he reacts.

    As for you, OP, time to move out. Even if it's into a room somewhere.

    Your parents should not be letting your bro freeload as he does, he should have chores and responsibilities. But their house, their rules. Have you discussed this with them?

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    I'm sure you have been told the same advice....if you don't like the situation you are in, move out. Even with the covid thing going on, people are still moving out, getting divorced/separating, buying houses and finding places to rent.

    As for your brother, that's your parent's problem to deal with. They are not blind to your brother's actions or situation. They are obviously not bothered by it, so there is nothing you can do about that.

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    Over a year ago you had a problem with your sister having her boyfriend over. Now you have a problem with your brother.

    In the past year I presume you have had the chance to save money. So you can move out now and avoid all these sibling issues.

    I moved during the pandemic. It wasn't the most fun thing I've ever done but I had to do it. Besides, rentals are going for cheaper because sadly lots of people lost their jobs and there are a lot of vacancies.

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