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Thread: Need advice on a woman who suddenly got distant from dating app

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    Originally Posted by JDMxTeGrA101
    I just don’t know why she put my city when she lives in another country.
    Have you asked her about it?

    This is a bad sign, IMO. You already have proof that at least some of the information she provided is fake.

    I would not get too involved in this until you can actually meet her for a real date.

    This may be a scam, I don't know. Run away if she ever asks you for money.

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    Honestly... it's been a week. You have not met in person. Move on.

    It's a giant red flag for a person to lie about their location in a dating app. It might be one thing, if they are moving soon and they're looking to make new contacts. but even then, until they move, its just words in a screen.

    Wanting to save up to visit your area? In a year? this sounds sketchy at best. Add in the love bombing. This is a fishy scenario.

    If you are really willing to wait A YEAR to meet in person, then just wait and see.

    I'd focus on local girls.

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    Originally Posted by JDMxTeGrA101
    I know this sounds like a BigEd story but it isn’t.

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    Thanks for your replies guys. Reason why I wouldn’t mind resorting to foreign women is cause it’s been tough in the dating scene during these times due to Covid and a lot more women have choices due to social media and I’ve been working so much, I hardly meet new people now and don’t go out as much so that is why I’m in the dating app

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    I can only echo Billie:

    "Probably not even female. Next you will be asked to send money for the flight just temporarily as “her” funds are not available until x date but “she” really wants to see you before then. You send the funds and then puff your dream girl disappears.

    Block ASAP before you get hacked!"


    OP. The "romance scams" can be very sophisticated setups. This one has all the hallmarks.

    Check this out

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    Nobody wants to date someone in another country unless they're a scammer who wants people to send them money or some kind of male order bride/husband. In any case, their intentions are probably dodgy. Even if this woman is not a catfish in the sense that she's the person in the pictures, that doesn't mean she doesn't have some kind of hidden agenda. If you still want to meet her, just say you'll meet up when she actually does come to your country. But don't spend much time talking to her and DON'T send any money. This might all end up being just a scam and waste of time.

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    My advice:

    Don't send "her" any money for any reason. "She" will probably tell you that she would love to come see you but she doesn't have any money for a ticket so you volunteer to buy her a ticket but she tells you that it would be better if you just send her the money so she can get a better deal on a flight.

    Seriously you need to rethink this whole thing.

    If they do not live near you then skip them and move on. Being single and alone is way better than falling for some scam and then losing a bunch of money in the process.

    Lost

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    OP,

    I do hear from my guy friends, that do on line dating, there are many scammers and eventually they always ask for money...

    It happens to women, too. I know for me, I only talk to local guys (30-45 minutes away by car MAX!) And that seems to be a good policy for many reasons.

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    She may not be a scammer or catfishing, just more of your run of the mill user or gold digger. Looking to create a hot fast romance, drag it out long enough where you feel like you are in a "relationship" and eventually she won't need to ask you for money or gifts, you'll start sending it yourself.

    Plenty of women like that actively prey on men who seem desperate and so an easy target - lonely, having a hard time dating, etc. Your clue is always the hot fast love bombing.

    It works too. You've barely talked to a random stranger in another country for a week and you are already wound up, over invested and counting hours between her responses, triggered by a delay in response enough to post here. This is actually your clue to delete her and check yourself. Better to be single and go about your life in peace than to get involved in what will be a toxic mess with a manipulative user.

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    Originally Posted by JDMxTeGrA101
    Thanks for your replies guys. Reason why I wouldn’t mind resorting to foreign women is cause it’s been tough in the dating scene during these times due to Covid and a lot more women have choices due to social media and I’ve been working so much,
    This is why dating foreign women who still don't live in you country - and won't any time soon - is an even bigger waste of time.

    If you are restricted from meeting women locally due to pandemic circumstances, it makes even less sense to try to connect with women who don't even live in the same nation. I don't mean to be unkind, but your reasoning is illogical on that one.

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