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    Female best friend

    My girl best friend and I which have been romantically involved in the past and have deep feelings for one another, which has been very hard at times but at this point in time we are best friends at least that's what it seems, wanted to know how normal is it that we say I love after almost every conversation which is everyday and she gets very jealous over other girls not that I'm involved with anyone else and she has told me herself that she will always be jealous and recently told me she can't live without me , also very open with physical touch,, this situation is what's best at the moment , I have expressed that it is difficult but im dealing with it best I can, are these things normal for regular guy/girl best friends without underlying feelings? Thanks in advance or comments

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    I would say no. I have never had touchy touchy jealous feelings about anyone who is just a friend.

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    Normal? No.

    Because you and your 'best friends' have crossed the line.. and sounds like SHE has gotten emotionally invested in you.. Uh ohh.
    I feel you should really back off her- for a good while.. Especially if you ARE seeing other women now.

    This is why we should NOT get involved with our 'friends', ends up really messing up a 'friendship' :/

    May be a long time until she can 'accept' you are not into her. So space is best at this time.

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    Originally Posted by Lc4700
    My girl best friend and I which have been romantically involved in the past and have deep feelings for one another, which has been very hard at times but at this point in time we are best friends
    What made the "romantically involved" change back to best friends?

    Do YOU want it to go back to romantically involved?

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    Originally Posted by Lc4700
    My girl best friend and I which have been romantically involved in the past and have deep feelings for one another, which has been very hard at times but at this point in time we are best friends at least that's what it seems, wanted to know how normal is it that we say I love after almost every conversation which is everyday and she gets very jealous over other girls not that I'm involved with anyone else and she has told me herself that she will always be jealous and recently told me she can't live without me , also very open with physical touch,, this situation is what's best at the moment , I have expressed that it is difficult but im dealing with it best I can, are these things normal for regular guy/girl best friends without underlying feelings? Thanks in advance or comments
    This sentence or part of your sentence bothers me.

    A person who has some idea or a good balance of herself wouldn't keep you tied like this or tell you she can't live without you. Is this supposed to be romantic or tongue in cheek with a wide grin? If someone told me straightfaced he couldn't live without me I'd feel uncomfortable. With a wide grin or a wink? Maybe not so much because that person's probably someone I know very well and it's a flirty friendship or a friendly flirt.

    If you're feeling some discomfort and confusion because of her words and the way she's controlling you or has a hold over you, start asking yourself whether her presence in your life is a positive one.

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    Do you want to be in a relationship or just FWB? It's best to be clear on that. From what you described, someone is going to get hurt because you are calling it "best friends", but acting like it's more.

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    You are not best friends , you are not even being a friend to her. In fact you are being extremely unfair to her.

    She absolutely can live without you , but you are using her as a substitute gf until you find one.

    Once you start dating a girl seriously , do you think it would be fair to your new girl to act the way you do with this current girl? I seriously hope your answer is no , in which case you would cut ties with current girl in favour of a potential relationship with a new girl? Right????

    End the fake friendship. Figure out how to be comfortably single without such attention from a female.

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    I have two very close male friends, whom I count among my best friends.

    I don't have any jealous feelings about their girlfriends or women they go out with, because I have no romantic interest in them. If you don't want to date her, you need to make it clear that you don't share her feelings and then take space from her. It's not a good idea to be "best friends" in this way if you have no intention of ever taking it further.

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    I think its time for a talk with this friend. The jealousy, cant live without you, touchy feely... it's unhealthy. Any woman you date is definitely going to have a problem with this.

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    Iam not using my best friend I would marry this girl, I want to be with her as more but we have had a few issues in the past so we have had to revert to being friends for the time being, we both agreed until we can get back on track, I apologize if my description of the situation was a bit confusing, the situation has confused me as well, we love each other and she is the future I want. Thanks for all the advice,

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