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Thread: When do we stop dating others?

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    Ok, I like this idea!

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    But these are random moments after sex

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    I usually get a good idea of whether someone is dating someone one at a time as opposed to seeing other people at the same time. If I know that the other person was casually seeing other people I wouldn't think of them in the relationship sense, more like a fling. That's just me.

    What gives you the feeling that he's seeing anyone else? Just curious.

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    I guess its probably the guys Ive dated in the past that make me feel like you can never be too sure.

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    After what you've written so far, I'd leave the matter and start making up more rules as you go (your own guidelines). Turn the situation around and don't depend on his answers. There are other cues you can be reading and if it's not clear, give yourself more time to get to know each other. Sooner or later it becomes obvious when someone is distracted or slips up or is inconsistent with their time or schedule or routines as you get to know one another.

    Figure out what kind of man he is rather than asking him what kind of man he is. A person can say anything they want. It's what he proves himself to be that matters.

    If you feel yourself getting too attached, I think you need to pull back and maybe ask yourself why you need these reassurances so early on. You're easy prey for people who lie or give you a false sense of security.

    I used to demand answers also when I was younger and I've learned to stop asking a whole lot of questions and observe more.

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    Ok, it's fine to define your own terms, so have the exclusive talk.

    That's not the same as heavy where are we going talks, it's simply stating that once sex is in the picture, these are your terms.

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    Originally Posted by mayflower165
    But these are random moments after sex

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    When he is ready to, he will bring it up. Monogamy before sex. IMO you are still getting to know one another and he might be one of those careful guys. You know, wants to be sure. You even said you get too attached too quickly. Some go at a different pace.

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    Originally Posted by smackie9
    When he is ready to, he will bring it up. Monogamy before sex.
    . . unless I missed someting I am not entirely clear if they are having sex or not

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    Originally Posted by reinventmyself
    . . unless I missed someting I am not entirely clear if they are having sex or not
    Since she specified that certain comments ("I want you...") are made after sex, I think it's safe to assume they are having sex.

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    Originally Posted by mayflower165
    But these are random moments after sex
    So you already slept with the dude and you are too nervous to say you are not dating someone else?

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