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    Platinum Member LaHermes's Avatar
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    I understand this to mean to work at the father's workplace, but not FOR him:

    "...her dad is trying to get me hired on at his job"

    "I'm assuming this job will tell her dad that I didn't get the position because I don't have a degree".

    One way or another OP you must tell her, and hope for thte best.

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    Alright, I'd rather not work with my FIL. Ty for the claro.

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    I'd not want to work for a FIL or MIL either JMan. Assuredly not.

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    That's the trouble with lying. Lies on top of lies continue to fester the deceit or you'll eventually be discovered as a liar and never to be trusted by anyone again permanently.

    Now is your chance to come clean. You can't undo the past but people are more impressed by your guilty conscience, humility and sincere apology than remaining silent. Then you'll eventually lose that gamble when they find out that they no longer respect your lack of integrity.

    It's time to confess to your fiance and her father. Do it because it's called doing the right thing. Be humble, explain why you lied (not that it's an excuse) and humbly and sincerely apologize. Express your remorse. Make these apologies in person face to face, put the phones down, turn off computers, TV, background noise, etc. Make sure there are zero distractions. Take your time to say you're truly sorry.

    Tell the truth for yourself and them. I actually commend you for having a guilty conscience. I've known so many very bad people who are experts at denial, gaslighting and would never apologize even if their very lives depended on it. They believe they're innocent down deep within their bones despite treating others with impunity. That to me, is more disgusting beyond measure. I've known all sorts of despicable characters in my lifetime.

    Swallow your pride, check your ego at the door and man up. Apologize humbly and sincerely to her and her dad. Come clean.

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    Did you lie on the application?

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