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    Anyone Who Has experienced this?

    Okay this is the sad story, I'm a 43 year old woman with a 25 son who still lives at home. He hasn't really kept a job until recently. Problem is he is a drinker and sometimes is actually okay, but sometimes not so much.

    He doesn't pay rent, but that doesn't bother me as long as he supports himself. He still can't consistently do that either. I also have COPD (lung disease) and find it difficult to do the things I used to be capable of. Actually I just took an early retirement from a Government job because of my health issues. Knowing I was going to be lonely after leaving my job I got a puppy. I love her to the moon. He is now criticizing me for not taking her for enough walks. I do take her out twice a day minimum. He also says I "spoil her" and that I shouldn't even have her. This all hurts me so much. I love my kid, but can't take his BS much longer. At this point in my life I hoped to have peace in my life. Seems that isn't happening.

    I hate to toss his ass out, but I'm beyond stressed.

    Anyone have any insight on this, I feel so alone.

    And thank you.....

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    Where is his father? Can he move in with his father?

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    There is no reason he should be home. He doesnít dictate to you what you do in your home. Heís actually not supporting himself if heís not paying rent. He needs to go.

    My son who has a disability has been paying me rent since he was 18. He also pays his own credit card, his own cell phone and his own student loan. If you are allowing your child to be lazy and dependant youíre not doing him any favours whatsoever. When you are gone nobodyís going to pander to him.

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    I wish, I chose to let his father go after Michael (my son) was three months old. He actually did jail time for assaulting me.

    Thanks for your reply.

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    I know, it's so depressing. I hate to toss him out on account of the pandemic. I couldn't live with the guilt of something happening to him.

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    You do your son no favours by letting him live with you for free. At 25 he needs to move out. A puppy is none of his business. Give him 2 weeks to find a new place to live and then he needs to be gone.

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    Thnx so much, I tend to agree. I need to get my sh*t together I guess...

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    I'm sorry for not responding properly, his father is a total loser... and I don't say that lightly, he assaulted me and spent time in jail. Not a good person by any means.

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    I know sometimes we canít get caught up feeling sorry for our kids for life events etc but this does not help our kids at all. Sometimes being tougher is for the better .

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    ~Seraphim~ - There is no reason he should be home. He doesnít dictate to you what you do in your home. Heís actually not supporting himself if heís not paying rent. He needs to go.
    Originally Posted by melancholy123
    You do your son no favours by letting him live with you for free. At 25 he needs to move out. A puppy is none of his business. .
    I totally agree with the above two posts. You're not doing him any favours. In fact, you are enabling him. You allow him to treat you this way. Trust me, he's old enough to cope on his own. He's not a helpless little boy. He's selfish and taking advantage. What you need right now is to show him some tough love and at the same time show him you have some self-respect.

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