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    Originally Posted by Jas76
    Glad you understand where I'm coming from. Yes, TN is an absolute nightmare. I've been on opiates, but they lose their efficacy after a while, so I use them sparingly. Hope yours stays in remission.

    Incidentally, mine was seemingly brought on by a physically abusive brother, which was briefly alluded to in my first post.
    I donít use opiates for it at all my doctor uses epilepsy medications. Carbamazepine and Lyrica at 800 mg of Tegretol and 100 mg Lyrica I can barely remember how to spell my name.
    So far I have been in remission for two years my last remission was six years.

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    Originally Posted by ~Seraphim ~
    I donít use opiates for it at all my doctor uses epilepsy medications. Carbamazepine and Lyrica at 800 mg of Tegretol and 100 mg Lyrica I can barely remember how to spell my name.
    So far I have been in remission for two years my last remission was six years.
    I would be scared of taking potent drugs like that, but I suppose TN can be more soul-destroying.

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    Originally Posted by Jas76
    I would be scared of taking potent drugs like that, but I suppose TN can be more soul-destroying.
    You bet!! The pain was enough to make me want to bang my head on the floor until I died. Instead of having jolts I can have a burning searing ice pick kind of pain with feeling like youíre actually being burned alive for days on end

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    I seem to have found more info which seems to be very pertinent:

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    BLOCK HER and don't look back. She is the worst kind of person, manipulative and abusive.

    She seen vulnerability in you and she took advantage. She is still doing that in making you feel sorry for her so you will do as she says. Don't play into her hand.

    At some point, you might have been able to have a friendship but she has ruined that and proved that she is an incredibly toxic person.
    You would do well to stay as far away from her as possible.

    You sound like a good hearted man and you deserve so much better than this. This is not your friend. Please stay away from her and allow better people into your life.

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    Jas, you have to realize that life is difficult, for most people. We all have our sad stories and our hardships. Yes, some more than others, but everyone has had at one time or another, a rough road.

    But we all have choices as adults too on what we do with our pain and difficulties. We either find ways to heal and get the proper help or we allow ourselves to become stagnant and do little or nothing in terms of improving our life.
    This woman has chose the latter.

    Don't buy into the fact that her life is something that should make you feel sorry for her or that you should continue having her in your life due to her situation.
    She'a a grown woman who had choices to get help and to go down a different road in life.
    At some point, you have to stop blaming your parents, the way you were brought up. etc, and start taking responsibility for your own life and how it turns out.
    This person could have turned her life around 20 year ago but decided to do little to nothing.
    That's something you shouldn't dismiss or forget.

    She has been terrible to you. You didn't deserve that, you still don't deserve that.
    The best you can do now, is to protect your own heart and your own emotional well being. You are doing the best you can what with getting help.
    This woman is choosing not to. There is lots of help out there should she want company or someone to talk to. (professional help).
    But try not to feel manipulated into "saving her".
    You tried to be a friend to her, she destroyed that.

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    Originally Posted by SherrySher
    BLOCK HER and don't look back. She is the worst kind of person, manipulative and abusive.

    She seen vulnerability in you and she took advantage. She is still doing that in making you feel sorry for her so you will do as she says. Don't play into her hand.

    At some point, you might have been able to have a friendship but she has ruined that and proved that she is an incredibly toxic person.
    You would do well to stay as far away from her as possible.

    You sound like a good hearted man and you deserve so much better than this. This is not your friend. Please stay away from her and allow better people into your life.
    Thanks for the very kind words.

    Yes, I can't help feel so sorry for her though. She has had a really tough or neglectful upbringing, and has no friends or family to support her.

    She was also crying again on the phone today (she cried quite a lot), before she ended the call abruptly when I said I'm reluctant to invite her over again due to her shamelessly abusive behaviour. If she has showed some remorse, and admitted her response that one night was disproportionate and highly abusive, I would have been far more forgiving. She has had circa 3 months to do so, and all that time my attempts to get her to show signs of sincere remorse have been futile. I'm a real softy, but I have a red line when it comes to abuse, as most reasonable people should.

    I feel like I'm her only friendly contact, but she is her own worst enemy. Sadly, her ego seems to be getting in the way of any resolution, or her seeking any psychological help, and her manipulative behaviour makes me more defensive. A really sad state of affairs.

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    Second response above.

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    Originally Posted by ~Seraphim ~
    You bet!! The pain was enough to make me want to bang my head on the floor until I died. Instead of having jolts I can have a burning searing ice pick kind of pain with feeling like youíre actually being burned alive for days on end
    Oh my goodness! Don't think mine has ever been that bad.

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    Originally Posted by SherrySher
    Jas, you have to realize that life is difficult, for most people. We all have our sad stories and our hardships. Yes, some more than others, but everyone has had at one time or another, a rough road.

    But we all have choices as adults too on what we do with our pain and difficulties. We either find ways to heal and get the proper help or we allow ourselves to become stagnant and do little or nothing in terms of improving our life.
    This woman has chose the latter.

    Don't buy into the fact that her life is something that should make you feel sorry for her or that you should continue having her in your life due to her situation.
    She'a a grown woman who had choices to get help and to go down a different road in life.
    At some point, you have to stop blaming your parents, the way you were brought up. etc, and start taking responsibility for your own life and how it turns out.
    This person could have turned her life around 20 year ago but decided to do little to nothing.
    That's something you shouldn't dismiss or forget.

    She has been terrible to you. You didn't deserve that, you still don't deserve that.
    The best you can do now, is to protect your own heart and your own emotional well being. You are doing the best you can what with getting help.
    This woman is choosing not to. There is lots of help out there should she want company or someone to talk to. (professional help).
    But try not to feel manipulated into "saving her".
    You tried to be a friend to her, she destroyed that.
    Yes, I think you're right. At age 63 I think she'll never change her ways sadly. I certainly think she has mastered the art of manipulation in her time though.

    I do regret mentioning her skin problem to her. I said her lack of self-care in that respect was off-putting. She claims it was an insult, but it wasn't said with the aim of offending or hurting her, but it was slightly tactless perhaps. The problems is how do you say something along those lines to a very sensitive person in a new relationship? It's very difficult.

    Yes, that's exactly how I feel; like I want to help/save her, but I can't seem to do that without sacrificing my mental and emotional wellbeing.

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