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Thread: The first year is supposed to be the hardest, but this canít be normal.

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    Platinum Member Rose Mosse's Avatar
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    I'm very sorry this is happening. I agree with Andrina. Please stop worrying what others think of you. Yes, there are men and women who have had to pull themselves out of situations that are not in their power to control. It doesn't speak about your worth as a person and your biggest priority is taking care of yourself. Your partner is not in the right frame of mind to take care of himself, let alone care for another person. Several of us have been in your shoes. You're going through a lot of shock, fear, pain and shame/guilt. It will take some time for you to understand all of it and put the pieces of your life back together. Don't expect it to be an overnight deal.

    Find a lawyer and keep things together. Things may be falling apart around you but hang onto your self-worth and know what's right for you. Listen closely to your instincts. They'll let you know when you're being manipulated or something isn't right. Be cautious in anything you say or do around him from now onwards and bring up any issues with your lawyer. Write things down if there are events that happen on a daily or weekly basis. This is a form of record-keeping through the excruciating pain you may be feeling.

    Look into therapy or even group therapy if that helps you. It didn't help me much, unfortunately, but friends sure did help - people who've known me a very, very long time. Do you have friends you can trust?

    Have faith in yourself regardless of what happens. Don't keep putting yourself in damaging situations or being around individuals who hurt or abuse you in any way, mentally, emotionally or physically.

    Having an open mind helps also. You may want certain things in life but you're inadvertently closing the door on other opportunities. Be open to more than just restarting or getting married again. Things will come together slowly once you're back on your own two feet and have the quiet and space to grow your own way again.

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    There will be times that you will doubt the choice you made to leave. But that's only because you have a good heart. He treated you like you didn't mean anything and was very bad to you.
    There is no one here that would have kept on. Divorce is the only solution to all of this.

    Don't allow guilt to play on your mind. He is a grown man and had free will to make the choices he made. He created a life of chaos, money problems, and placing his marriage last in line. He didn't respect you, love you, or take care of you. Those were his choices. Don't ever feel bad for taking care of yourself and walking away.

    It will take time before you feel confident in your decision and where you won't feel bad or doubt. But you are doing the right thing in leaving. To stay, would only have caused you much more damage and heartache.

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