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    Several responders have asked you to provide more information , by not responding to them you have left all with no option but to advise / comment based on the limited information you are only willing to share. Itís an anonymous forum.
    So please tell us the info we are missing?

    Of course one can acknowledge your expression of remorse for the way you reacted but what are you going to do to prevent this or similar from happening again? Thatís what people have asked of you or advised to do.
    Surely thatís not criticism alone but constructive?

    What exactly are you wanting to gain from posting on here if not that?

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    Billy i put u on ignore but plz keep talking. I like imagining u wasting your time. Not that u can waste something that has no value.

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    Originally Posted by Jinstron
    Billy i put u on ignore but plz keep talking. I like imagining u wasting your time. Not that u can waste something that has no value.
    Putting me on ignore does not stop others seeing my replies.
    And they will see that my replies simply highlight the fact that you are omitting details.

    What exactly about my responses are triggering your anger and why?

    Your anger at me is futile. Just as your anger at this girl in question is.

    I seriously hope you will get help for anger management as others have suggested.

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    OP.

    Leaving aside that you blew a gasket and raged at her and all the rest, surely it must have occurred to you early on that this individual was not a suitable match in any sense of the word.

    You remarked in an earlier thread:

    "The detail is that she has a trauma of men cheating, and strongly against porn. 2 days prior to the fight she finds on my phone old contacts of women ive met in the past, and also 2 porn images (for meme template!) And next day has a mini breakdown, crying on the phone how she cant trust me, ive been with too many women, and that the lockdown is getting to her."

    Just in passing I want to ask. If she is in another country how was she able to get into your phone?

    And, that aside, how does she know that you have been with "too many women"? Did you tell her this. Surely that was TMI.

    All in all, OP, a very dysfunctional "relationship" with a far distant online only presence.

    As other posters have remarked. Why not find a relationship in real life, closer to home, wherever your home is. U.S.A.?

    Just to add, did she also give you TMI about all these traumatising men she complained about?
    Last edited by LaHermes; 06-21-2020 at 10:10 AM.

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    Originally Posted by Jinstron
    I think its judgemental when u take a partial info and form a whole narrative around it on your whim esp when that narrative is negative, which says more about where the narrators mindset is than the one being judged.

    I explicitedly said i was sorry and shameful of what i did and if some members here cant accept that confession with some generosity on their part, then i doubt this is a place where i can find constructive criticism.
    I think the forum is understanding that this was a two month correspondence online. Is this correct?

    There is a very low tolerance for overbearing or manipulative behaviours towards others. I think there was some good and constructive insight. Ignore the comments you don't find useful.

    Do you have any other questions about the situation or issues you want to talk about?

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    Can you clarify the details of the relationship? You were a couple for two months? In those two months how much time did you spend together in person?

    I ask because often people in an online only relationship create stories that have no firm basis in reality.
    I am politely asking if you would please respond to these questions. The answers would certainly have impact on how I would advise you.

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    Yes, OP, it would be helpful if you could clarify the details on this relationship.

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    Thread has run its course...Closed.

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