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Thread: My parents care more about their money than they do about my physical wellbeing

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    I don't agree with "no pain, no gain " because that causes people to ignore or disregard injuries that could turn out to be serious.

    I blew out my knee when I was 9 years old because my parents had prepaid for ballet lessons and didn't want to "waste" the money. I ended up having more injuries and eventually needed surgery.

    I don't think it should get to that point.

    But it's important to really reflect; do you want to skip a day because you think the training is too hard and you don't feel like working that hard? Or are you seriously concerned about illness or injury?

    If you have serious concerns please bring them up with your coach. Your coach can talk to your parents if the coach shares your concerns.

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    Welcome to training. Yes, it's painful and exhausting and you've got to suck it up and persevere if you want to succeed.

    Contrary to what you are thinking, your parents actually do care about your well being, both mental and physical. They aren't letting you quit just because it got tough and that's a critical lesson. One you might not understand today, but one you'll appreciate later in life a lot.

    For the pain, be sure you are drinking a lot of water and some gatoraide or something similar with salt/electrolytes in it. Make sure you are eating big proper meals to give your body fuel and also take multivitamins daily. Again, your body needs the fuel big time. Also, eat a banana or two daily - they really help with any muscle cramping.

    The blister - what's already said - glove, bandage. Also, tell the coaches - if you are getting blisters, it's likely you are not holding the racket quite correctly. Take advantage of the camp and the coaching to fix these sorts of details. A day off isn't going to make the blister go away anyway, but some individual attention on how to hold/do something so you aren't blistering will help you a lot in the long run.

    Same goes for if you are having an off day or something is too much - you need to let the coaching staff know and adjust or get help to adjust. Training is all about communication and you've got to learn to speak up and do that. You don't solve your issues by just running away and taking time off. Coaches are sharp and they already noticed you were off - that was and still is your chance to let them know what's going on with you. When the coach made that comment, that was an invitation to speak up for you. A huge part of their job is to come up with individual solutions and advice on how to train, handle something, back off of something, etc.

    I know very well that camps are designed around intensive group drills and there is a sense of competition that forces you to keep up. That's one advantage of the camp training - you'll get fitter, better faster because you are in an environment where you are going to push yourself way more than you'll ever do in individual training. That said, individual attention and adjustments are always available and there for you - to really take full advantage of this camp, you have to speak up and ask for it. Bring up what you are struggling with, what's not working and get that value of good coaching to the max. Take full advantage not just half way.

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    Your parents are absolutely correct... you need to speak with your coach about how you are feeling. Your nausea and soreness can be related to all sorts of things... hydration, electrolyte balance, nutrition, sleep quality, and what you are doing for active recovery such as stretching and rolling your muscles, getting massage, etc. You also might need to scale your level of effort depending on the day and how sore you are.

    This isn't about not caring about your well-being... it's about teaching you how to overcome your mental blocks and to work with your coach to get the most out of your training.

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    It's not that your parents care more about the money. It's that they care more about instilling some values in you with this experience.

    Assuming that you aren't playing badmitton against your will. Your parents have sponsored something that you wanted to do.

    Playing a sport is a commitment. Letting you take a day off at your leisure and even if your thumb is sore is a poor message.

    I have two sons. One was always 100% all in. The other always had an excuse. Whenever signups for any sport came around, we had the same talk. - this is a commitment, a commitment to your team and your whole family is involved. You either play the entire season and go to every practice without any excuses, or you don't play at all.

    At some point he just realized organized sports weren't his thing. But not until after alot of battles and whining about not wanting to go half the time.

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    All this pain, bumps and bruises is called conditioning. If you want to go pro, you need to push yourself through this like all famous athletes have to do. It is what it is. You need to see the bigger picture here in what needs to be accomplished. You can do this!

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    You put gloves on, you drink tons of water because you could feel nauseous because you are dehydrated and you go and try. Let the COACH decide if they think you need to sit on the sidelines, but make the effort to show up. also, sometimes our stomachs get queasy because we just don't want to do things/we are nervous.

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