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Thread: How to build trust again

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    Originally Posted by DancingFool
    Sooner or later, everyone shows their cards. That's why it's important to be patient and keep your eyes wide open, pay attention, listen carefully, especially watch what they do
    I looooooooooooove your detective skills!!!!

    OP take notes. Private lessons are chargeable!

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    Beware of date rape. Of course some guys are nice on the first date. Never enter a man's apartment until you get to know them for a very long time. You can't prove date rape after it is done. If anything, it will be turned around on you as "consensual" or you asked for it meaning you were a tramp or promiscuous. Yes, that's how twisted and humiliated it can get.

    Trust is earned. Pay close attention to everything when it comes to a person's personality and character.

    It pays to take it very slow and study a person. If they're "off" in any way, heed those warning bells in your brain. Never ignore red flags because your gut intuition is always right on the mark.

    Become a very picky and choosy person because it will pay off later. I've dated a few guys before I met my husband and while they were okay, they weren't great and there was something about them which didn't qualify according to my high standards. Good things happen to those who wait.

    When I attended my high school reunion, a lot of women dated young and early and rushed to the altar. Fast forward years later: The majority of them are divorced single parents and struggling. Haste makes waste.

    Take your time and never settle for anybody. Make sure your radar is up.

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    Good. Just move on. Stick with simple
    dates in public places. It's that simple.
    Originally Posted by score123
    He is the same guy and he insisted again on that home date tody, so I am calling him off. It looks very inappropriate for me.

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    The whole point of first meets is to screen out bad matches. So before ending the date, why not just mention that he's welcome to contact you for a second date if he'd like to meet again in public?

    Then if you hear from the guy, he's a potential match. If not, he's screened himself out, and you can move on to meet someone better.

    Head high, it's a needle in the haystack thing, and most people are NOT our match. But it only takes one.

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    Thank you guys! All of your responses are more than welcome and appreciated!! Btw I am going on after that and I realized I really ack trust and confidence on myself, thats why I was worring about him. Can you give any advice on any good source (book/course/audio/) to improve confidence and trust on yourself?? Thank you!

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    Toastmasters international!

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    Originally Posted by score123
    Thank you guys! All of your responses are more than welcome and appreciated!! Btw I am going on after that and I realized I really ack trust and confidence on myself, thats why I was worring about him. Can you give any advice on any good source (book/course/audio/) to improve confidence and trust on yourself?? Thank you!
    The only way I've learned how to trust my own judgment is to start using it responsibly.

    So in cases of dating, are you asking the right questions to screen OUT bad matches, or are you going along with whatever info a guy wants to give and letting HIM drive the date?

    If you're not learning enough on first meet about why a guy is dating and whether his goals are the same as yours, then what's to trust, exactly?

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