Jinstron Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 Gf breaks up with me then on the same week goes on a camping trip with another dude. Comes back and starts crying on the phone how lousy the date was and i blow up on her, because shes actually crying about the guy rejecting her. Because this also means she was seeing him behind my back, has no respect for the relationship we had, and now using me as an emotional pillow. And she treated me like crap thru the breakup as tho it was all my fault. I blow up on her so hard she blocks me on everything and its now completely over. Did i do the right thing? Link to comment
Billie28 Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 Why is it only now that you say it’s completely over? Wasn’t it completely over when you broke up? How long ago did this all happen? Who broke up with who? Why and when? I’m guessing with social distancing , this can’t have been recent? Link to comment
Danmarko Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 Definitely done the right thing, she's vile and selfish. Don't ever let her in to your life again. She's a nasty person. Link to comment
Spawn Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 whats the background? how long were you together? well she being nasty to you and you blowing up on her makes it even i guess? No. We all makes mistakes she did & you did, best thing to do now is stay away from her, let her go now and you take care of yourself be at peace. It sounds too messy now to engage with her. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 Of course you've done the right thing. How could it not be the right thing? She wasn't in love with you if she ended it with you to spend a weekend with another guy, and had the stones to cry to you about it. You're very much Plan B, but not a guy she even respects. I would never speak to her again. Link to comment
Lambert Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 You did the right thing. Be glad she blocked you... saved you the trouble. Link to comment
Jinstron Posted May 30, 2020 Author Share Posted May 30, 2020 We were together 2 months and 1 yr friendship before that. The thing i dont get, how can see tell me she loves me through and through even during the breakup and then go do this? She even said times and times she loves me so much it actually scares her. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 The thing i dont get, how can see tell me she loves me through and through even during the breakup and then go do this? She even said times and times she loves me so much it actually scares her. Because she has no clue what love actually means. She's too immature for true love right now. How old is this girl? Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 She is... 32... 😂 Oh wow, I thought you were going to tell us she is 19 or 20. Honestly. Forget her. If she still doesn't know what love is at 32 and still behaves like a teenager, you are well rid of her. Link to comment
Jinstron Posted May 30, 2020 Author Share Posted May 30, 2020 I should add that she has a history of masking her feelings (or so she claimed) so im trying to figure out if theres some complex scheme of hers that im not seeing. Perhaps she loved me so much but knew that it was too risky of a matchup so she had to find herself a rebound to rid me from her heart asap. And treating me the way she did to drive me away as hard as possible. I dunno im probably overthinking it because it doesnt add up completely... Link to comment
Billie28 Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 I should add that she has a history of masking her feelings (or so she claimed) so im trying to figure out if theres some complex scheme of hers that im not seeing. Perhaps she loved me so much but knew that it was too risky of a matchup so she had to find herself a rebound to rid me from her heart asap. And treating me the way she did to drive me away as hard as possible. I dunno im probably overthinking it because it doesnt add up completely... Oh no. This is too sad to read. She never loved you. She used you only. You were friends for 365 days and supposedly dating for 56. ?? And you are now wondering if she loved you too much??? No one loves another too much. They either love or don’t. But respect comes before love and she doesn’t respect you. Therefore she doesn’t love you. She used you for attention , got rid of you for attention elsewhere. When that attention wasn’t there anymore , she went back to her safety net, you. Are you ok with being her back up ? Knowing she is only using you for that??? Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 I should add that she has a history of masking her feelings (or so she claimed) so im trying to figure out if theres some complex scheme of hers that im not seeing. Perhaps she loved me so much but knew that it was too risky of a matchup so she had to find herself a rebound to rid me from her heart asap. And treating me the way she did to drive me away as hard as possible. I dunno im probably overthinking it because it doesnt add up completely... No, it's not that complicated. She fed you a bunch of flowery lines, but in the end? She just wasn't that committed to you and fell for another guy. That adds up, if you're willing to accept the painful truth. Link to comment
Andrina Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 It's pointless to decipher someone else's psyche. You can never fully know another human being. Just take what happened at face value and that she turned out to not be your lifetime partner. Of course it takes time to mourn the end of a relationship, but know that she no longer deserves any space inside your brain. She's in your rearview mirror and every day that passes, she will get smaller and smaller until she disappears and you will no longer think of her daily. Take care. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 Yes she did the right thing deleting and blocking you.She should have been blocked and deleted at the time of the breakup. "Blowing up on people" is nonsense post breakup. When it's over it's over. She will probably just run back to the guy or date someone else. I blow up on her so hard she blocks me on everything and its now completely over. Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 We were together 2 months and 1 yr friendship before that. The thing i dont get, how can see tell me she loves me through and through even during the breakup and then go do this? She even said times and times she loves me so much it actually scares her. Because she's a liar! Be glad this is over. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 Anybody can talk a good game. People show us who they really are by their behavior. Using you as an emotional band-aid to talk about some other guy shows you a lack of concern for your feelings. I'd rather see that for what it is than try to pretzel my mind around some convoluted excuse for it. Head high, and move forward with clarity and self respect. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 You should have blocked her after the split. Why did you allow her to use you as a therapist? You are still asking if you did the "right thing." I don't get it! Link to comment
Hollyj Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 We were together 2 months and 1 yr friendship before that. The thing i dont get, how can see tell me she loves me through and through even during the breakup and then go do this? She even said times and times she loves me so much it actually scares her. Because she didn't love or respect you. You need to follow actions. Is this your first relationship? Link to comment
Hollyj Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 I should add that she has a history of masking her feelings (or so she claimed) so im trying to figure out if theres some complex scheme of hers that im not seeing. Perhaps she loved me so much but knew that it was too risky of a matchup so she had to find herself a rebound to rid me from her heart asap. And treating me the way she did to drive me away as hard as possible. I dunno im probably overthinking it because it doesnt add up completely... This makes no sense. Dude, you need to face reality here. She did not love you. These are only words. Link to comment
Jinstron Posted May 30, 2020 Author Share Posted May 30, 2020 Yes im seeing that ive been played like a puppet. Its just that heart is stupid and takes longer to learn... One thing that bugs me tho. When she ended the exclusivity it was over vidchat since we're long distance rn. I told her i probably wont come visit her now and she started crying. You can cry for many things but it doesnt necessarily equate to love, i guess. Link to comment
Lambert Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 Yes im seeing that ive been played like a puppet. Its just that heart is stupid and takes longer to learn... One thing that bugs me tho. When she ended the exclusivity it was over vidchat since we're long distance rn. I told her i probably wont come visit her now and she started crying. You can cry for many things but it doesnt necessarily equate to love, i guess.32! i also thought 19 or 20. Don't try to figure her out. You cant use logic to figure out another person. logic is individual.[emoji38] maybe she lied. maybe she's just selfish.... Link to comment
Jinstron Posted May 30, 2020 Author Share Posted May 30, 2020 Id say she is selfish. Incredibly selfish. Those tears couldve been from wanting me but also she wanted the other guy too so here i am... Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 One thing that bugs me tho. When she ended the exclusivity it was over vidchat since we're long distance rn. I told her i probably wont come visit her now and she started crying. You can cry for many things but it doesnt necessarily equate to love, i guess. An important lesson to learn, yes. Tears do not mean she loved you. Tears can mean she felt guilty for hurting you. They can mean she was upset you wouldn't be her security blanket. They could be for the other guy. But love for you? No, unfortunately, that wasn't it. This woman said a lot of pretty things but her behaviour revealed her true colours. She was into another guy One thing I find curious about your wording, though: you say she ended your "exclusivity." Were you two not officially a couple? Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted May 30, 2020 Share Posted May 30, 2020 Sounds like she wanted to sample the menu, while you waited on the back burner. Raise your standards, and never sign up to be someone's sloppy seconds. Can you say, "Good riddance?" Link to comment
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