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Thread: Broke my own heart again.

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    Originally Posted by Billie28
    So basically what you are saying is that you want her to block you , because itís YOU that isnít strong enough to let go? Right?
    As i said on your last thread she doesnít care enough to block you.
    Likewise she doesnít care enough to not message at times or to message you other times.
    To repeat myself , she just doesnít care.

    But you are checking her online status constantly and getting pissed off when you start to realise she doesnít care but then contact her to try and find out if maybe , just maybe she does.

    She simply doesnít.

    Iím sorry , but you need to realise this.
    It was a short 16 week relationship , the first part of that was dating so really only an 8-10 week attempt at a relationship that didnít work out.

    Instead of blocking her for the umpteenth time, block AND delete and stop this cycle that only hurts you and no one else?

    Look after yourself!
    You're right but I just feel so lost and depressed. She made me incredibly happy after what my ex did but I think that's all we were meant to be, help each other through what our exes did..
    Like I say, I did block her but she found a way to message me asking if I was okay and then ignored me alot again.. but when I block she always says, I was poorly etc
    But she says she's not been speaking to me because I always make her feel like a bad person, that isn't the case, she knows I hate being ignored but she starts up a conversation half the time.

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    Originally Posted by StokeCity1
    I told her the other day that I didn't want to talk and she respected my choice but then messaged me that night asking if I was alright then ignored me!
    What do you mean by her "ignoring" you? If you get this distressed whenever she doesn't reply to a message within 30 minutes, you might be better off working on your anxiety and direct your attention elsewhere rather than blocking/unblocking and getting back into contact to question why she is ignoring you. You and she are no longer an item and people have their own lives. I might be on and off in talking with a friend where some messages can be replied days later and we pick up where we left off. If the topic is not urgent nobody gets upset over such thing.

    You said you didn't want to talk so why are you still talking to her? You can ignore her messages too.

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    Originally Posted by SophiaG
    What do you mean by her "ignoring" you? If you get this distressed whenever she doesn't reply to a message within 30 minutes, you might be better off working on your anxiety and direct your attention elsewhere rather than blocking/unblocking and getting back into contact to question why she is ignoring you. You and she are no longer an item and people have their own lives. I might be on and off in talking with a friend where some messages can be replied days later and we pick up where we left off. If the topic is not urgent nobody gets upset over such thing.

    You said you didn't want to talk so why are you still talking to her? You can ignore her messages too.
    So, she messaged me with "hope you're okay crying emoji" after I said we need to be apart so we aren't hurting each other by sleeping with another which she replied, "I respect your choice"..
    So I replied to her hope you're okay.. and again, noticed she was online and not even bothering to look at my message, she only seems to give me attention is when I block her and even then it's to tell me she isn't very well or something. And I was talking to her because I felt rude not replying to her message

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    Originally Posted by StokeCity1
    So, she messaged me with "hope you're okay crying emoji" after I said we need to be apart so we aren't hurting each other by sleeping with another which she replied, "I respect your choice"..
    So I replied to her hope you're okay.. and again, noticed she was online and not even bothering to look at my message, she only seems to give me attention is when I block her and even then it's to tell me she isn't very well or something. And I was talking to her because I felt rude not replying to her message
    So you know she doesn't care if she comes across as being rude to you. Or she simply doesn't feel a need to respond (I feel the same way sometimes when a simple question got answered or the conversation is naturally coming to an end). Someone has to end the conversation at some point.

    Basically if the only reason I reply to someone's messages is not wanting to be rude, it wouldn't bother me if they don't reply back. If you feel this annoyed by her not replying, it seems like you are still holding some expectations or wanting to talk to her. I don't typically recommend "block+delete" but if you can't bring yourself to ignore her messages or not be disturbed by them, maybe that's the best way to move on.

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    Originally Posted by SophiaG
    So you know she doesn't care if she comes across as being rude to you. Or she simply doesn't feel a need to respond (I feel the same way sometimes when a simple question got answered or the conversation is naturally coming to an end). Someone has to end the conversation at some point.

    Basically if the only reason I reply to someone's messages is not wanting to be rude, it wouldn't bother me if they don't reply back. If you feel this annoyed by her not replying, it seems like you are still holding some expectations or wanting to talk to her. I don't typically recommend "block+delete" but if you can't bring yourself to ignore her messages or not be disturbed by them, maybe that's the best way to move on.
    It seems she only messages me when it's convienent, I really want to reach out to her now to see if she's okay but there's no point. I miss her a lot.
    This is from a girl who's usually quite needy with me even as friends she would be constantly messaging me and now it's just stopped. We spoke last night and she said that she is hesitant to speak to me because I make her feel like a bad person.

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    Originally Posted by StokeCity1
    It seems she only messages me when it's convienent, I really want to reach out to her now to see if she's okay but there's no point. I miss her a lot.
    This is from a girl who's usually quite needy with me even as friends she would be constantly messaging me and now it's just stopped. We spoke last night and she said that she is hesitant to speak to me because I make her feel like a bad person.
    I'm sorry but this is such a goofy immature game you are playing. She is OK about what? You do realize she is an adult capable of taking care of herself and her own life, right? Are you ok is a stupid and pointless question to be asking over and over and there is no real answer to it other than "fine, thanks." Like what are you doing to yourself? Stop. Just stop. You are both playing this same stupid game of pinging each other with pointless questions and remarks and for what? All you are doing is keeping yourself stuck in drama. Block, delete, be done.

    Give yourself an actual chance to heal and move on. This is beyond ridiculous, all this pretense and games you are both playing. It's literally whose d is bigger and who can guilt trip the other one how and one upping each other. Toxic doesn't even begin to define this. Get your head screwed on straight and get off this already and get over yourself. You don't have that much power over anyone and she is literally playing with your ego, pulling strings and punishing you for dumping her. What a pal.... Block and delete and stop fooling yourself. Are you OK...my arse.....

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    Is this the same partner?
    Originally Posted by StokeCity1
    I'm 23 and she's 21, both lesbian She come home last night, I cooked her tea and she said she didn't want nothing and just lay on her phone ignoring me..

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    Originally Posted by DancingFool
    I'm sorry but this is such a goofy immature game you are playing. She is OK about what? You do realize she is an adult capable of taking care of herself and her own life, right? Are you ok is a stupid and pointless question to be asking over and over and there is no real answer to it other than "fine, thanks." Like what are you doing to yourself? Stop. Just stop. You are both playing this same stupid game of pinging each other with pointless questions and remarks and for what? All you are doing is keeping yourself stuck in drama. Block, delete, be done.
    I agree, DF.

    This has got to stop, OP. "Are you okay?" is just a thinly-veiled "Please pay attention to me"-message. It needs to end.

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    Is this the same partner?
    No it isnt

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    Originally Posted by StokeCity1
    It seems she only messages me when it's convienent, I really want to reach out to her now to see if she's okay but there's no point .
    Thatís a lie.
    You are not wanting to see if she is ok.
    You are wanting to see if she cares.
    Your intent to message is not selfless.

    Block and delete her from every platform so that you wonít message her , and so you wonít be waiting and hoping she messages you.

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