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Thread: Broke my own heart again.

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    Broke my own heart again.

    I put a post about my ex and how I started NC. She contacted me that night asking if I was okay and we started to talk again, then she started to ignore me while being online.. so I blocked her again and then rang her the next day asking why she treats me so badly, she says she doesn't.. then said she will message me later, she did so and we had another conversation.. to where I tried ring her but she was on the phone for 2 hours at 12am..
    She then rang my friend and told my friend to remember that I broke up with her, so my friend said you need to block her because she isn't strong enough so my ex replied I will speak to her tomorrow..
    I recieved no message but I knew she wasn't very well, so I rang her asking if she is okay, she said she isn't well but will call me later.. I messaged her later on because I noticed she was online and asked if she needed anything, she blatantly ignored me so I got pissed off and blocked her again.. she messaged me on instagram and said that she isn't well but baring in mind her house mate sent me a snapchat of them drinking 🥺.. so I didnt reply at all, then today I noticed after 4 months of not posting a picture on Instagram, she posts a new picture.. this evening I went the shop and she saw me but completely blanked me.. so I messaged her tonight and said that I miss her and can she ring me, I tried to call her and she said, I'm at work I'll ring when I can.. I replied look, have I done something, she turned around and said she can't do the arguing anymore, so I said okay, I miss you as a friend and just tell me what you want me to do, whether you want to talk or not I'll respect your decision. I just can't for the life of me, understand why she hasn't blocked me but ignores me and only speaks to me now and then, I'm waiting on a reply and she's online now but hasn't seen my message.. my heart is breaking and I dont know what to do

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    Oh come on! How old are you? The point of No Contact is to be No Contact! Stop texting and contacting her. Block and delete her and get her off your social media. You will never get over her until you do this. You are hurting yourself immeasurably and indirectly, her as well.

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    What you do is you put some distance between yourself and your ex and stop depending on her to make you feel good. She's not your go-to person anymore. If you're hurt, you're going to have to scream in a pillow or cry it out and process things on your own. She's not your crutch anymore.

    Create some distance and space and start fixing the broken parts of you on your own. Nobody can help you do that. People think that by having their exes back or their loved ones back from the past that having them again solves things or fixes the hurt inside. It doesn't. What it does is it creates more questions between the both of you just like you discovered yourself. She's there but she's not quite there. When there's that much damage, take a time out and go over things on your own.

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    The lines between lover, friend and ex seem quite blurry in this case.

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    Originally Posted by StokeCity1
    my heart is breaking and I dont know what to do
    Well, you do know what to do. You just don't want to.

    That would be to really go No Contact with her. Until you do it (or until she starts dating someone and stops coming to you for attention) you'll stay stuck in this heartbreak and misery. Easier said than done, I realize, but you're your own worst enemy here.

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    So basically what you are saying is that you want her to block you , because itís YOU that isnít strong enough to let go? Right?
    As i said on your last thread she doesnít care enough to block you.
    Likewise she doesnít care enough to not message at times or to message you other times.
    To repeat myself , she just doesnít care.

    But you are checking her online status constantly and getting pissed off when you start to realise she doesnít care but then contact her to try and find out if maybe , just maybe she does.

    She simply doesnít.

    Iím sorry , but you need to realise this.
    It was a short 16 week relationship , the first part of that was dating so really only an 8-10 week attempt at a relationship that didnít work out.

    Instead of blocking her for the umpteenth time, block AND delete and stop this cycle that only hurts you and no one else?

    Look after yourself!

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    You know perfectly well what to do - block and delete her from everything. Enough already. She doesn't care and you need to get over her and move on. You know this.

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    You broke up with her. I'm not sure why you still expect her to reply to every one of your messages. Even a friend doesn't have this much responsibility let alone an ex.

    You decided you didn't want her in your life anymore. Why demand to know what she wants you to do now as if she has all the power?

    Stop using the block/unblock as a punishment or a way to get her attention. It won't work.

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    Originally Posted by melancholy123
    Oh come on! How old are you? The point of No Contact is to be No Contact! Stop texting and contacting her. Block and delete her and get her off your social media. You will never get over her until you do this. You are hurting yourself immeasurably and indirectly, her as well.
    Yeah I know this and doubt she is hurting.

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    Originally Posted by SophiaG
    You broke up with her. I'm not sure why you still expect her to reply to every one of your messages. Even a friend doesn't have this much responsibility let alone an ex.

    You decided you didn't want her in your life anymore. Why demand to know what she wants you to do now as if she has all the power?

    Stop using the block/unblock as a punishment or a way to get her attention. It won't work.
    I told her the other day that I didn't want to talk and she respected my choice but then messaged me that night asking if I was alright then ignored me!

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