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    Started NC.

    I posted on here a couple of days ago about the relationship I was in, recently me and the ex have been seeing each other and we had sex 2 nights ago, so last night I pretty much said, we either be friends and only friends or we sit down and work things out, I also asked her how she felt, it took her 8 hours to reply so I blocked her, I was clearly being ignored as she was online on other social medias but apparently fell asleep within 1 minute, I unblocked her and explained that we can't keep doing this we are both hurting each other and we need to be apart.. she said she respects my choice and I blocked her on everything, but she hasnt blocked me (on whatsapp her picture is still there) I'm actually shocked she hasnt even reached out to me but we need this no contact. The night we slept together she joked about sleeping with her ex 2 weeks ago and then joked about speaking to someone else.. I miss her so much and just want speak to her. Any tips for NC? Cheers

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    Remove her from WhatsApp. Do not unblock her anywhere. Dont contact her. The point of No Contact is to have No Contact. Take time to sort yourself out and then move on with your life.

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    No contact is for you to heal

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    Her life is messed up and you are doing yourself lot of emotional damage if you continue being in contact.
    be firm, if it requires you to block her off completely on social media its for your own good. Don't feel bad about it.
    take control of your life.

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    Originally Posted by StokeCity1
    The night we slept together she joked about sleeping with her ex 2 weeks ago and then joked about speaking to someone else.. I miss her so much and just want speak to her. Any tips for NC? Cheers
    I don't necessarily think you should believe these were jokes, OP. It was probably the truth, presented as a joke so as not to upset you too much.

    But even then - who the hell "jokes" like that with an ex?

    It's time to really move on and keep her blocked. She's shown you that you are not her priority.

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    You only know her 16 weeks.

    You do realise that when you block someone they canít block you back because they canít even access your profile ??!

    Whatsapp is just a messaging app. Itís not social media. You havenít blocked her number , why not? No contact is for you and preventing contact in case you have a weak moment?!
    Itís likely that she hasnít even noticed you have blocked her yet on social media.
    And why would she block your number? Unless you are harassing her?

    The reality is (sorry) that she doesnít care enough to even think to block your number.

    Why waste your time and energy checking something that doesnít even mean anything?

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    It'll take awhile for it to sink in that she's not interested but the less you feed yourself lies or hallucinations that she does, the quicker things will go for you. The healing process can start. Bawl your eyes out, swear, stay home and don't face the world if you don't want to. Just get it that she doesn't want to be with you at all and she's not interested in you. Don't keep it all in and pretend that things are cool. They are not cool. Just a matter of acceptance now and letting go.

    Good for you for not contacting her. Keep it that way and start processing all this now.

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    Totally agree with Rose Mosse. She isn't interested. She's not blocked you because she obviously isn't feeling anything to do so. Seems like just another form of attention as she mentioned she's still in contact with her ex. You need to realise she is going through a 'reckless' stage in her life and just trying to get attention from any direction. I can bet money on it when she's feeling bored or lonely she'll reach out - but won't be successful because you'll still have her blocked. Move on its hard right now to socialise but take up something to occupy your time. You deserve better.

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    Originally Posted by ironi
    Totally agree with Rose Mosse. She isn't interested. She's not blocked you because she obviously isn't feeling anything to do so. Seems like just another form of attention as she mentioned she's still in contact with her ex. You need to realise she is going through a 'reckless' stage in her life and just trying to get attention from any direction. I can bet money on it when she's feeling bored or lonely she'll reach out - but won't be successful because you'll still have her blocked. Move on its hard right now to socialise but take up something to occupy your time. You deserve better.
    She messaged me last night asking if I'm okay. I gave in (even though she said she respects my decision to cut contact)we had a light conversation but again, she ignores me and comes up with excuses. I've asked her why she treats me like this and if there is anyone else and I'm being ignored again, so I've blocked and this time I'm not going back. I'm so hurt by this

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    Originally Posted by StokeCity1
    She messaged me last night asking if I'm okay. I gave in (even though she said she respects my decision to cut contact)we had a light conversation but again, she ignores me and comes up with excuses. I've asked her why she treats me like this and if there is anyone else and I'm being ignored again, so I've blocked and this time I'm not going back. I'm so hurt by this
    this is a blessing. trust me. blocking her and not being open to bread crumbs. its for the best.

    Take care. it wont hurt this much forever.


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