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Thread: Would really appreciate advice and opinions on this please

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    Originally Posted by graythings
    I usually start crying because i am very sensitive so thats why i said i would try control them which i did he even said i handled the break up much better than he expected. He does have issues controlling his anger and sought help in the past, but right now he doesnt see his side he just sees us arguing all the time (4 disagreements in 6 weeks) but they are exhausting because they go on for days. then he always says he doesnt know if we can continue because hes afraid the arguments will continue. even after i tried controlling myself he said that ok for now because im consciously doing it but i wont always be consciously doing it. My friend said he made it seem like it was all my fault because he is unable see or deal with his own emotions and its nothing to do with me
    I get emotional and tear up easily in arguments too. I used to hate it and researched ways to control my tears. It helps in workplace or other professional settings, but in personal arguments (especially with a bf) I find it very hard. Or sometimes I don't really want to control it. When there are a lot of arguments that trigger my emotional response that's usually a sign that the relationship is not working. When I'm happy in my relationship those tearful arguments are almost nonexistent and I can hardly remember the last time I cried.

    I think your ex is contributing equally, if not mostly, to your prolonged arguments. If he refuses to see his fault and blames it all on your emotions, getting back with him will only cause more tears and pain for you.

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    Originally Posted by MissCanuck
    Is this really a relationship you want to hang on to?

    It sounds draining and ultimately not worth the hassle.
    I know you think im crazy but yes. I do have feelings for him and i love his company and being with him. I know the issues and can identify the problems and i also feel as we are in a new phase we are still learning about each other and how we react etc

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    Originally Posted by SophiaG
    I get emotional and tear up easily in arguments too. I used to hate it and researched ways to control my tears. It helps in workplace or other professional settings, but in personal arguments (especially with a bf) I find it very hard. Or sometimes I don't really want to control it. When there are a lot of arguments that trigger my emotional response that's usually a sign that the relationship is not working. When I'm happy in my relationship those tearful arguments are almost nonexistent and I can hardly remember the last time I cried.

    I think your ex is contributing equally, if not mostly, to your prolonged arguments. If he refuses to see his fault and blames it all on your emotions, getting back with him will only cause more tears and pain for you.
    he definitely contributes to it being prolonged. even if i do get emotional i always try resolve and ask him can we resolve it within a few hours max. this is not just with me either. if he gets worked up about something else in his life he hangs on to it for hours and lets it impact on him

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    do you guys think he may have some feelings for me but they may be lost/suppressed due to the stress and tension of the arguments etc?

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