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Thread: Has Quarantine Ruined Us Or Was It Always Going To End?

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    Just wondering, do you mean you are looking for something light and casual just for now? Or in general you're not looking for a serious relationship? Even in future? If it was me it would actually depend on what I'm ultimately looking for in the end. For example, I am actually looking for a serious committed relationship, so if I already knew someone is not "the one" and we are also bickering, I probably wouldn't worry about it.

    I don't mind having something more casual while I'm looking for "the one". As you said though, if it's casual it needs to be light and relaxed. If the main aim is to just be having a fun time with this person, then is it worth it if it's not actually fun? I think the fact that this guy was impatient with you and then gave over a day of silent treatment is not good. As posters are saying though, some people have been more on edge and moody during quarantine. I know I was as well. Was everything fine before quarantine?

    It's difficult to know whether this is how this guy handles difficult times or whether quarantine is just something very different that people don't normally experience. E.g. if someone got fired from their job, at least they could see their friends and family for support and/or do their hobbies out in the open. With quarantine everything was taken away from us. Our job, friends, family, most hobbies and interests. I'm saying for a lot of people, not all. So it's hard to know whether quarantine was just a lot more difficult for some people to handle due to all these factors.

    Now quarantine is beginning to ease off. So I guess you just need to think, do you want to give it another chance? Or not worry about it?

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    Just for now! I'm approaching my mid twenties, but I'm not quite ready for anything serious yet. I do eventually want to find that person. Everything was fine in the sense of having fun and not really bickering like this before quarantine. He admitted that he has felt like he's been in a funk, which as established everyone has been feeling some type of way. But that's not an excuse to treat people poorly. I went into all this with the intent of having a mature conversation about where we're at and if this is going to have a shot at being fun again. We talked a little this evening, seems like he doesn't wanna call it quits but isn't ready to talk much either.

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    Originally Posted by youngnotdumb
    He admitted that he has felt like he's been in a funk, which as established everyone has been feeling some type of way. But that's not an excuse to treat people poorly.
    Exactly.

    Everybody has good days and bad days.

    Not everybody uses their bad days as an excuse to take out their frustrations on others.

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    Ok pull back stop the heavy relationship talks. Talk to you friends. You are communicating way too much. You should be busy with other pursuits. Keep the convo centered on things to do once COVID déconfinement unfolds in your area.
    Originally Posted by youngnotdumb
    We talked a little this evening, seems like he doesn't wanna call it quits but isn't ready to talk much either.

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    Originally Posted by youngnotdumb
    Just for now! I'm approaching my mid twenties, but I'm not quite ready for anything serious yet. I do eventually want to find that person. Everything was fine in the sense of having fun and not really bickering like this before quarantine. He admitted that he has felt like he's been in a funk, which as established everyone has been feeling some type of way. But that's not an excuse to treat people poorly. I went into all this with the intent of having a mature conversation about where we're at and if this is going to have a shot at being fun again. We talked a little this evening, seems like he doesn't wanna call it quits but isn't ready to talk much either.
    Maybe dial it back and give it a break. You can't force someone to do what you want and not everyone thinks clearly in the moment. If after giving him the benefit of the doubt for awhile and you continue to have a funny feeling about things and things just aren't sitting right with you intuitively, stop talking with him and don't initiate any conversations.

    You shouldn't be around people who make you feel badly about yourself or who don't treat you the way you ought to be treated - those are people who don't take you seriously or take the piss out of you.

    Take it easy and one day at a time.

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