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Thread: What do I do when my boyfriend blocks on everything after a big fight?

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    Never agree to anything shady. He is poisoning your well being. At some level you know this. Read up on "Stockholm Syndrome".[Register to see the link]


    You are also in a cycle. He degrades you, acts out, you panic and apologize for his abuse. Think long and hard about that. Talk to a trusted adult (family member, doctor, teacher, therapist, etc) about what is going on. Is there abuse, drinking or trouble at home that you think this is in any way "normal"? Don't your friends think he's a creep?
    Originally Posted by seanelly
    I have a mistke of agreeing to doing him a favor in his attendance in our class.

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    Originally Posted by Rose Mosse
    That's fine if you feel a sense of obligation to follow through on your promises. I would too. Calling you useless and stupid is not acceptable, imo. I tend to think if someone really cares so much about you they'd be more concerned about your lack of sleep and getting to class or getting through your day safely. Did he apologize to you at all for calling you those things or did he casually pretend he didn't say them?
    we're talking right now and its really my fault for acting up on him. he still continues to curse at me in our language and im panicking because he is now resorting into a break up

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    Take charge. Turn the tables. Dump him.
    Originally Posted by seanelly
    he still continues to curse at me in our language and im panicking because he is now resorting into a break up

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    Originally Posted by seanelly
    because he is now resorting into a break up
    Threats and manipulation. Is this the relationship you want in your life?

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    Originally Posted by seanelly
    hello thank you for replying to my thread :) I just feel confused as of now and I feel like Im also in the wrong here, my boyfriend helped me on some parts of my term paper and I feel like I have a mistke of agreeing to doing him a favor in his attendance in our class. The next morning I was really cranky from my lack of sleep and sort of blamed him for asking that favor and thats the reason why I wanted to make it up to him. I kinda admit that I sometimes dont know if Im still in the right when it comes to my relationship. And right now me and him are talking and idk what to say because this seems like a make or break it chance in our relationship.
    Hello, seanelly, you're very welcome. The problem was his reaction. You've since explained to him that you cannot do the favor he had requested because you stayed up all night finishing your term paper, had to attend an early class and sleep deprived. He should've understood and said, "Ok." But no, he refused to place himself in your shoes which is the problem. He's very selfish and self centered and just like that, instead of having a calm, lucid, mature discussion to say that he felt for you, what did he do instead? He blocked you. He's a red flag all over the place. Then the icing on this cake was that he called you stupid. What a guy! Your boyfriend is acting like a you know what. He's a jerk. I wouldn't trust him if I were you because you know what he's capable of saying, writing and he'll block you again. You should be very wary and jaded. He'll call you stupid again, block you and are you prepared for these same old, mean scenarios? Only you know this answer. He acts like a whiny 2 year old who doesn't get his way so he pitches a fit as if he's having a childish meltdown. I've known people like him. You need to dump him!

    Either tolerate and accept your boyfriend's character and personality as is INCURABLE flaws, defects and all or dissolve and exit the relationship.

    I've been married for a long time. A real man treats a lady with HABITUAL empathy, calmness, love, respect, kindness, patience, tenderness, poise and selfless, very mature behavior. A real man knows how to be a peaceful person. Sorry, your boyfriend is not a man. He's still a spoiled brat boy who never grew up.
    Last edited by Cherylyn; 05-17-2020 at 06:05 PM.

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    Originally Posted by seanelly
    we're talking right now and its really my fault for acting up on him. he still continues to curse at me in our language and im panicking because he is now resorting into a break up
    Call his bluff and break up.

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    Originally Posted by Cherylyn
    Call his bluff and break up.
    And mean it!! Don't look back. You can do A LOT better.

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    Originally Posted by Jibralta
    And mean it!! Don't look back. You can do A LOT better.
    Yes indeed! Be serious!

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    Originally Posted by Cherylyn
    Hello, seanelly, you're very welcome. The problem was his reaction. You've since explained to him that you cannot do the favor he had requested because you stayed up all night finishing your term paper, had to attend an early class and sleep deprived. He should've understood and said, "Ok." But no, he refused to place himself in your shoes which is the problem. He's very selfish and self centered and just like that, instead of having a calm, lucid, mature discussion to say that he felt for you, what did he do instead? He blocked you. He's a red flag all over the place. Then the icing on this cake was that he called you stupid. What a guy! Your boyfriend is acting like a you know what. He's a jerk. I wouldn't trust him if I were you because you know what he's capable of saying, writing and he'll block you again. You should be very wary and jaded. He'll call you stupid again, block you and are you prepared for these same old, mean scenarios? Only you know this answer. He acts like a whiny 2 year old who doesn't get his way so he pitches a fit as if he's having a childish meltdown. I've known people like him. You need to dump him!

    Either tolerate and accept your boyfriend's character and personality as is INCURABLE flaws, defects and all or dissolve and exit the relationship.

    I've been married for a long time. A real man treats a lady with HABITUAL empathy, calmness, love, respect, kindness, patience, tenderness, poise and selfless, very mature behavior. Sorry, your boyfriend is not a man. He's still a spoiled brat boy who never grew up.
    hello cherylyn, I agree that he has a mistake of blowing the argument out of proportion but I feel like when I messaged him earlier in the morning I kinda threw a little fit on him. We both have the same college program and have the same schedule, our routine every morning was for me to wake him up for classes, that day was out of the ordinary; I somewhat told him to take the attendance himself (the favor) because I already took mine and Im having technical difficulties logging on to his attendance. In our messages earlier, he can tell that my tone was just y at this point.

    Tonight we talked but he is still mad and he started cursing at me in Tagalog and it really hit me hard, he said he is sick and tired of my attitude and even brought up as to why im being bullied before. He resorted to calling things off and I was begging him to stay calm, eventually he acted petty and went to sleep. He warned me that if I called, I'll get blocked and if i plan on going to his place, he wont open the door.

    When it comes to us arguing I always feel so tongue-tied and have nothing to say which just makes me look stupid infront of him. Even if I say that theres no need for him to say those things, he always says that he doesnt care. Im still holding on to what we have and lately this is maybe just because we barely see each other now due to quarantine, but at the same Im close to letting go and I have a fear for regretting if I let him go. The thought of it made me imagine how depressed I would be like how I experienced in my previous relationship.

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    Originally Posted by seanelly
    hello cherylyn, I agree that he has a mistake of blowing the argument out of proportion but I feel like when I messaged him earlier in the morning I kinda threw a little fit on him. We both have the same college program and have the same schedule, our routine every morning was for me to wake him up for classes, that day was out of the ordinary; I somewhat told him to take the attendance himself (the favor) because I already took mine and Im having technical difficulties logging on to his attendance. In our messages earlier, he can tell that my tone was just y at this point.

    Tonight we talked but he is still mad and he started cursing at me in Tagalog and it really hit me hard, he said he is sick and tired of my attitude and even brought up as to why im being bullied before. He resorted to calling things off and I was begging him to stay calm, eventually he acted petty and went to sleep. He warned me that if I called, I'll get blocked and if i plan on going to his place, he wont open the door.

    When it comes to us arguing I always feel so tongue-tied and have nothing to say which just makes me look stupid infront of him. Even if I say that theres no need for him to say those things, he always says that he doesnt care. Im still holding on to what we have and lately this is maybe just because we barely see each other now due to quarantine, but at the same Im close to letting go and I have a fear for regretting if I let him go. The thought of it made me imagine how depressed I would be like how I experienced in my previous relationship.
    His behavior is unacceptable. He calls you stupid, curses at you and you're his verbal punching bag. Since he's sick and tired of you, do him and yourself a favor and call it quits. Break up with him. If he blocks you as usual, block him back and delete him from your life. He's abusing you. How much more abuse can you take from him? Kick him out of your life. Don't go to his place. Don't deal with him anymore. Block and delete him. You're done.

    He revealed his true, real despicable character to you. COVID-19 pandemic, lock down, quarantine did you a favor. Now is the time to block and delete him forever and permanently. Be dead serious.

    He doesn't exercise self control and self discipline. Whenever he spews out of his mouth or writes, it's a reflection of his despicable character and mind. I've known people like him. He doesn't care. Don't hold onto anything because there's nothing to hold onto. He treats you with repeated nasty disrespect. You won't have any regrets because you need to tell yourself that you deserve to be treated as if you matter with common decency, common courtesy and utmost respect. Anything less is a real deal breaker.

    It's better to give yourself respect and peace by disassociating yourself from toxic people, men, him, etc. Be strong and tough. Never allow anyone to push you around and downgrade you.
    Last edited by Cherylyn; 05-17-2020 at 06:52 PM.

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