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    Offer to visit them at her place. If she refuses, then you have your answer. Kids should never be used as pawns or passed back and forth when the dating parent wants the place to themselves. Do you think her new bf is suggesting she 'get rid of' them for a while?
    Originally Posted by Rb1980
    She is making out I'm being a rubbish dad and keeps telling me "the kids will remember this"

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    Offer to visit them at her place. If she refuses, then you have your answer. Kids should never be used as pawns or passed back and forth when the dating parent wants the place to themselves. Do you think her new bf is suggesting she 'get rid of' them for a while?
    No, he's a decent guy and the kids love being around him. They have been together for abiut 4 years.

    She won't allow me to visit them there as she throws up the "part time parent" line she says I should "step up" and look after them and have them in my care.
    On a normal month I would agree but whilst all this is happening it's not quite as simple!

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    So what does she suggest you do?

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    So what does she suggest you do?
    I simply get the reply, "you are the dad, sort it out"

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    Originally Posted by Rb1980
    I simply get the reply, "you are the dad, sort it out"
    Then you say Iím coming on such and such a day to pick them up on the train have them ready and donít tell me no I am the dad have them ready.

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    Originally Posted by Rb1980
    I simply get the reply, "you are the dad, sort it out"
    What is she so mad at you about?

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    What is she so mad at you about?
    No idea, she just seems to get like this!

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    You need to sort it out. Do you have a family member who drives and can take you to get them? Or if you are disabled and cannot drive, surely there is some type of service or you can hire a driver. If the kids are there, you should have a means to get around should they have an emergency. How do you work?

    I do not think she is unreasonable about the train. Public transportation can be a quick way to get sick and kids get their hands all over everything and touch their faces. It should be a no go.

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    Originally Posted by Rb1980
    No idea, she just seems to get like this!
    I bet she is on her last nerve with no break from the kids. No school, etc

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    Originally Posted by abitbroken
    I bet she is on her last nerve with no break from the kids. No school, etc
    Definitely and she has done a great job.
    To explain my scenario a little clearer
    I can't drive
    She doesn't want me using train
    The only family member I have that would normally help is classed as high risk

    On a normal month I would use the train to collect them and the family member takes them back home when they go back to their mum.
    None of those options are currently open to me

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