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Thread: My ex asked me to block her because she wasnít strong enough to block me

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    My ex asked me to block her because she wasnít strong enough to block me

    Long story short. I got drunk and a girl kissed me out in town and I kissed her back. I left town and told my ex as soon as I got home. It hurt me that I did this because I didnít think I was capable of doing it. Weíve been talking a bit since then and has recently asked me to block her because she didnít have the strength to block me and she was tempted to mail me a couple of times. Weíve been broken up for about a month or 2 but we still kept contact every now and then. What should I do? I love her so much and I know what I did was . But I really want some advice because i want her back in my life.

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    Perhaps you should listen to what she's asked you to do and respect her wishes. Give her some space and time to move on.

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    You should have blocked her anyways....you both need to move on...it's over so there is no point in staying connected.

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    It sounds like you wanted to break up so you did this and then told her so she would leave.
    Originally Posted by noonespecial
    Long story short. I got drunk and a girl kissed me out in town and I kissed her back. I left town and told my ex as soon as I got home.

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    I didnít want to break up with her. I never wanted that

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    Then why mess around and then rub it in her face? What is she supposed to do?
    Originally Posted by noonespecial
    I didnít want to break up with her. I never wanted that

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    The girl kissed me .. I didnít rub it in her face I told her straightaway because she deserved to know. I wasnít going to not tell her because thatís selfish. A lot of people donít tell their partners and jut keep it a secret to stay together. I respect her and I know what I did hurt her and broke her trust but i want her back in my life because Iím in deep regrer

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    Originally Posted by noonespecial
    The girl kissed me .. I didnít rub it in her face I told her straightaway because she deserved to know. I wasnít going to not tell her because thatís selfish. A lot of people donít tell their partners and jut keep it a secret to stay together. I respect her and I know what I did hurt her and broke her trust but i want her back in my life because Iím in deep regrer
    Good for you to respect her and tell her the truth. You said you "kissed her back" and you've been out getting drunk with other girls, so in some sense you allowed something like this to happen. Unfortunately some mistakes cannot be undone. Use this opportunity to learn and avoid similar mistakes in your future relationship.

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    Originally Posted by noonespecial
    The girl kissed me .. I didnít rub it in her face I told her straightaway because she deserved to know. I wasnít going to not tell her because thatís selfish. A lot of people donít tell their partners and jut keep it a secret to stay together. I respect her and I know what I did hurt her and broke her trust but i want her back in my life because Iím in deep regrer
    Can I ask how old you two are?

    What you're saying above would make a modicum of sense if you were still together, since in that context a girl kissing youówhich is to say you kissing a girlówould be a very significant breach of trust. But anything that occurs even two hours after a relationship ends, let alone a month or two, is simply you living your life as a human being who is no longer in a partnership. Regret a drunken hookup? Cool, feel your way through those feelings. But offloading them onto an ex? That's pouring salt in a wound and calling it integrity and respect.

    Maybe block her for a bitóbecause she's asked you to, and listening is the ultimate display of respect, far more than the pouring of saltóand in that space and that quiet take a moment to ask yourself what you want and what kinds of choices will get you closer to that, rather than further.

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    However the question is did she "deserve" your antics with other girls? Unfortunately you want points for being honest to overshadow the bad behavior. "I was drunk, she kissed me, hey at least i told you etc etc". Sounds more like a boatload of excuses and ways to hurt her.

    If for some reason you got this convoluted thinking from one of those "get your ex back' sites that advise making the ex jealous. Well now you've seen how that backfires. Now on top of whatever broke you up she thinks you are ... fill in a the blank here.
    Originally Posted by noonespecial
    she deserved to know. I wasnít going to not tell her because thatís selfish. I respect her and I know what I did hurt her and broke her trust

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