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    Originally Posted by Jibralta
    Maybe he can try backing down from his stance temporarily?

    Obviously, you guys have settled into your routines on the long term division of labor.

    But this is just the short term.

    If you present it to him as ONLY a temporary solution, and reassure him that things will return to normal in the near future, might it be more palatable for him?
    I think it will return to normal when he returns to work. I could put it that way.

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    Originally Posted by ChellyV
    Back when I was living with my husband, I put a lot of effort to be "indifferent" to his mess, and do my deep cleaning twice a week. I understand it drives you crazy to see it as a constant in your home now, I probably will be too. It took me a lot of looking away to be at peace with myself at night before I go to sleep. LOL. Mostly he also got tired of my constantly reminding him aka nagging, something I hated doing, and cleaned up after himself. In the end I just had to accept it....pick and choose my battles.
    Usually I do but pandemic fever is getting to us.

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    Originally Posted by itsallgrand
    Lol I'm sorry, this made me laugh. Not an eye twitch! You know it's bad when an eye starts twitching!

    Like Wiseman said, I think we are all getting on each other's nerves more than usual, its not even unusual when you are stuck together unnaturally all the time. I've gotten annoyed at how perky my guy is all the time, really silly but it's just because I'm getting so so little time to myself and it's driving me crazy.

    But if the eye is twitching, maybe just let him know in a nice way you need a bit of time where he is off in the garage or another room or something for a while so you can clean, for your sanity. I liked the idea of sending him off with a snack, who would say no to that?!
    I may have to say something before I go insane.

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    Originally Posted by catfeeder
    Sanity trade! If you'll do me the favor of staying out of the kitchen between x and y time, I'll do z for you.

    Bribery is the fine art of showing someone what's in it for them to give you what you want.
    Bribery might be the best course of action.

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    Originally Posted by TulipTrees
    Can you set aside one room that is 'yours only' for the duration of the pandemic? As in, he does not go into that room to clutter it while you're forced to share space during the pandemic. If you feel start to feel anxious about the clutter in other rooms, just retreat to your special place and enjoy the peace and order there.
    Unfortunately , no our house is far too small. Thereís our bedroom ,our sonís bedroom ,the bathroom ,the living room ,the kitchen and my daycare room.

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    Originally Posted by itsallgrand
    Lol I'm sorry, this made me laugh. Not an eye twitch! You know it's bad when an eye starts twitching!

    Like Wiseman said, I think we are all getting on each other's nerves more than usual, its not even unusual when you are stuck together unnaturally all the time. I've gotten annoyed at how perky my guy is all the time, really silly but it's just because I'm getting so so little time to myself and it's driving me crazy.

    But if the eye is twitching, maybe just let him know in a nice way you need a bit of time where he is off in the garage or another room or something for a while so you can clean, for your sanity. I liked the idea of sending him off with a snack, who would say no to that?!
    And the last straw that set off the twitch was him hanging a sports banner on my vanity in our room ď Because it looks nice there.Ē

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    Can you tidy up the bedroom first thing in the morning, then tell your husband the living room is his for the day, and the bedroom is yours until bedtime? Switch off every other day if you want to have equal time in those places. Tell him to put that banner in the bathroom so that you have your private sanctuary. He can contemplate his favorite sports team while he's on the loo, and you don't have to look at it all day!

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    If the daycare room isn't currently in use can't that be "your" room?

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    I had to cry today in his effort to ď help cleanĒ my TV looked like this and I had to buff it for a half hour.
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    What did he use to clean it?

    At least he tried...

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