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    Stress and Anxiety Guildance

    I just had a confrontation with my family member about different kinds of work and it took it overboard. We yelled for a solid 30 minutes, she gotten my arm and made me feel like she was about to hit me or something. I told her to let go and not touch me, but she continued to yell in my face and chew me out. I then had to go outside and cry my eyes out because I was so stressed and pissed off to where I couldn't even do my work. I'm worried that all the yelling we did wasn't nessecary, but my anxiety and stress is high and I can't do anything to calm down or get help. Any ideas to help me keep calm and be able to focus on things?

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    aww. I'm sorry!

    I feel like a broken record with this advice, but these stressful times. Have you tried deep breathing exercises and or meditation? There are tons of videos on you tube.

    I have found, for the guided mediation, the trick is to keep trying different people until you find one that has a voice that you like.

    good luck!

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    In this situations it is best to stop yelling/talking/communicating early and walk away. I agree look for videos on stress relief on you tube .

    Also get exercise if you can. A good brisk walk. Sunshine. Good sleep if you can.

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    To:Lambert

    I have tried that before in the past and I still do, there's just not as much of a variety of it as it was before.


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    I do try to go onto walks with my boyfriend if he's not working or have appointments himself, but I also have to be careful because of my neighborhood (too many creeps are out anymore on the road looking for chicks or selling dope >-<)

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    You can also do a power walk around your yard.

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    Look up 4-7-8 breathing Weil method. Walk away and do that. His way of doing it.

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    It depends. Is this family member a parent asking you to do chores or is it a sibling squabble? If it's a parent who is supporting you while living at home, just do what you have to do. If it's a sibling, just walk away.

    Why not avoid the stress in the first place rather than escalate to a physical confrontation then wonder how to calm down? Especially since excellent suggestions about taking walks, meditating, etc is not an option for you.
    Originally Posted by MelBeats1995
    I just had a confrontation with my family member about different kinds of work. I told her to let go and not touch me, but she continued to yell in my face and chew me out.
    Last edited by Wiseman2; 05-07-2020 at 01:47 PM.

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    Mel, what was the argument about?

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    Best think to do is to walk away, go to your room and listen to music. To relax you can get a sketch pad and doodle/draw to take your mind of things.

    Take a break more often, distance yourself, go outside in the yard and garden or make a nice sitting area, read a book, etc. There are so many things you can to to distract yourself from the stress.

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    You've received some good suggestions for dealing with stress overall, but what is the problem that caused the argument in the first place?


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