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    Understanding a Nightmare?

    Hey guys. I want to share a nightmare I had with you guys I had two weeks ago, I talked with my therapist about this, and I think the two of us are misunderstanding it. What do you guys think? I'd love some more opinions of this..

    Some Backstory: I'm a 26 year old straight male from New Jersey. I've been suffering from HOCD, Anxiety, and Self Doubt about my sexuality for seemingly forever now, but very heavily over the last 2.5 months, it's all I think about.

    Okay so have any of you seen the Michael Myers Halloween Movies? The ones that are played every year on Halloween night, the guy with the mask?

    Well anyway, I had a nightmare about 2 weeks ago now that I'm still trying to figure out. So Michael Myers, the movie character, was in my dream, locked inside this heavily guarded room or door whatever you want to call it. He tries desperately to get out, and he does. The dream cuts to the real life version of me, who is not far from this, but also not close either, starting to worry and panic, and start running away far far away, like Jamie lee curtis in the movies. The dream then cuts back to michael myers character, who we assume (we dont see what happens, but we assume) he kills the people guarding the door, who were just random not real actual people, just made up) and he starts searching for his next victim, which I know is me because I'm the reason he was put in that room. Somehow, the character finds a knife in the dream, and does whatever he can to get to the real life version of me, attacking anyone in his way (you dont actually see any people get killed & the people in the dream are not based off anyone in real life but you know thats what happens because its like the movie) anyway somehow he walks by a mirror, and you see a reflection of the mask, and the person behind the mask. the person behind the mask is myself. So there's this insane version of myself that's been locked in a jail like room for so long, attacking people and people around me, that is after the real version of myself. Eventually, this character reaches me, I trip over and am cornered. I don't remember if in the dream the character version of myself takes off his mask or if I just knew it was myself, but anyway the character reaches me, offers his hand out like he's asking for help. I start to think if I take his hand I become him. I don't do anything and I wake up.

    My therapist and I originally thought this character represented the anxiety that's in me and not knowing how to deal with it or how to accept it..

    I'm wondering now if it represents the homosexuality or bisexuality version of myself that I've been either ignoring, or keeping locked and hidden away for so long, and I feared if I took that hand to help the character, I'd become my worst nightmare and all my real hopes and dreams would be over? I don't know, it was the worst nightmare I've ever had.

    Its just I've never loved a guy, never had a crush on a guy, never did anything other than be friends with a guy, never did anything sexual around men, never thought of a specific man, never had any temptations to hook up with a guy in real life, I would admit if I did, but I'm 26 years old and it just would have happened.. I've just been doubting myself for awhile now, and it's been bad lately.

    I've had this character in my nightmares before, but we never see the face in any of the other nightmares, he was just threatening family but never actually got to them because we got away.. though I'm assuming I was him the entire time

    Is it strange that I want to have my worst nightmare of all time, again, to find out answers? I've been wanting this nightmare again for two weeks to find out more answers, but it never happens lol
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    It's just a friggin dream. It has nothing to do with who you are as a person. The dream does not define you or give you any insight about yourself--other than you tend to have vivid dreams.

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    Originally Posted by jimthzz
    It's just a friggin dream. It has nothing to do with who you are as a person. The dream does not define you or give you any insight about yourself--other than you tend to have vivid dreams.
    That is true, I guess I just have a feeling this is trying to tell me something..

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    As a kid I used to have a recurring dream about a gold coloured monster who would walk down my street looking for anyone he could find. I'm not sure what he would do if he did find someone but it wouldnt be good. I'd have to hide anywhere I could so he could not see me. This dream happened several times and I never told anyone, it didnt really seem to bother me much. Then one time after I had that dream again I told my mother about it. She dismissed it as stupid kid's stuff. I never had the dream again! So I am wondering if now, since you've told us about your nightmare, if it will cease to happen again. I'd like to know if you do have it again.

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    Originally Posted by melancholy123
    As a kid I used to have a recurring dream about a gold coloured monster who would walk down my street looking for anyone he could find. I'm not sure what he would do if he did find someone but it wouldnt be good. I'd have to hide anywhere I could so he could not see me. This dream happened several times and I never told anyone, it didnt really seem to bother me much. Then one time after I had that dream again I told my mother about it. She dismissed it as stupid kid's stuff. I never had the dream again! So I am wondering if now, since you've told us about your nightmare, if it will cease to happen again. I'd like to know if you do have it again.
    Interesting, thanks for your reply. I mean, I talked to my mother about it like a day or two after it happened too, she knows what I've been going through. I guess maybe it was just a one time thing, and really the answer was anxiety and nothing more? I don't know, Ive just been doing a lot of soul searching lately

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    So you've had this nightmare just once? I'm not you, but I'd chalk that up to something weird I ate or something disturbing on tv. I dont think it means you have a problem.

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    I used to have a dream dictionary that I'd reference to if I had a profound dream or nightmare. There's similar tools online that you may find helpful.

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    As someone who has had nightmares often, I've done some basic research in the past on why we dream what we do. Essentially, what we dream can be about / can be impacted by whatever we are preoccupied with mentally, what we have absorbed throughout the day, what we've seen before going to sleep (that's why watching the news or anything negative before going to bed is a bad idea), any impacting experiences, our sleeping conditions (e.g. are we sleeping comfortably in a tranquil environment?), etc.

    My personal recommendation is to not believe every dream meaning you read about because a lot of factors (which I mentioned above) come into play. The average person has around four to six dreams per night. Sleep cycles are also relevant. Ideally a psychologist or psychiatrist should be able to give you some clarity on how your dream might be relevant.

    Please be aware that I am not a specialist on the topic. Here's a well researched article on Healthline ([Register to see the link] ) if you want to learn more about dreams. You can check out the article's sources by clicking on the orange + sign.

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    Originally Posted by greendots
    As someone who has had nightmares often, I've done some basic research in the past on why we dream what we do. Essentially, what we dream can be about / can be impacted by whatever we are preoccupied with mentally, what we have absorbed throughout the day, what we've seen before going to sleep (that's why watching the news or anything negative before going to bed is a bad idea), any impacting experiences, our sleeping conditions (e.g. are we sleeping comfortably in a tranquil environment?), etc.

    My personal recommendation is to not believe every dream meaning you read about because a lot of factors (which I mentioned above) come into play. The average person has around four to six dreams per night. Sleep cycles are also relevant. Ideally a psychologist or psychiatrist should be able to give you some clarity on how your dream might be relevant.

    Please be aware that I am not a specialist on the topic. Here's a well researched article on Healthline ([Register to see the link] ) if you want to learn more about dreams. You can check out the article's sources by clicking on the orange + sign.
    Thanks for your reply. I definitely do have some nights where I have more than one dream, usually those I can remember 3 of the dreams.. But I don't remember every detail of all of them. Then there's times like that one I described above where it was just one long dream that felt like I was trying to watch a real life movie about what's going on in my head..

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    Originally Posted by JCDallas
    Hey guys. I want to share a nightmare I had with you guys I had two weeks ago, I talked with my therapist about this, and I think the two of us are misunderstanding it. What do you guys think? I'd love some more opinions of this..

    Some Backstory: I'm a 26 year old straight male from New Jersey. I've been suffering from HOCD, Anxiety, and Self Doubt about my sexuality for seemingly forever now, but very heavily over the last 2.5 months, it's all I think about.

    Okay so have any of you seen the Michael Myers Halloween Movies? The ones that are played every year on Halloween night, the guy with the mask?

    Well anyway, I had a nightmare about 2 weeks ago now that I'm still trying to figure out. So Michael Myers, the movie character, was in my dream, locked inside this heavily guarded room or door whatever you want to call it. He tries desperately to get out, and he does. The dream cuts to the real life version of me, who is not far from this, but also not close either, starting to worry and panic, and start running away far far away, like Jamie lee curtis in the movies. The dream then cuts back to michael myers character, who we assume (we dont see what happens, but we assume) he kills the people guarding the door, who were just random not real actual people, just made up) and he starts searching for his next victim, which I know is me because I'm the reason he was put in that room. Somehow, the character finds a knife in the dream, and does whatever he can to get to the real life version of me, attacking anyone in his way (you dont actually see any people get killed & the people in the dream are not based off anyone in real life but you know thats what happens because its like the movie) anyway somehow he walks by a mirror, and you see a reflection of the mask, and the person behind the mask. the person behind the mask is myself. So there's this insane version of myself that's been locked in a jail like room for so long, attacking people and people around me, that is after the real version of myself. Eventually, this character reaches me, I trip over and am cornered. I don't remember if in the dream the character version of myself takes off his mask or if I just knew it was myself, but anyway the character reaches me, offers his hand out like he's asking for help. I start to think if I take his hand I become him. I don't do anything and I wake up.

    My therapist and I originally thought this character represented the anxiety that's in me and not knowing how to deal with it or how to accept it..

    I'm wondering now if it represents the homosexuality or bisexuality version of myself that I've been either ignoring, or keeping locked and hidden away for so long, and I feared if I took that hand to help the character, I'd become my worst nightmare and all my real hopes and dreams would be over? I don't know, it was the worst nightmare I've ever had.

    Its just I've never loved a guy, never had a crush on a guy, never did anything other than be friends with a guy, never did anything sexual around men, never thought of a specific man, never had any temptations to hook up with a guy in real life, I would admit if I did, but I'm 26 years old and it just would have happened.. I've just been doubting myself for awhile now, and it's been bad lately.

    I've had this character in my nightmares before, but we never see the face in any of the other nightmares, he was just threatening family but never actually got to them because we got away.. though I'm assuming I was him the entire time

    Is it strange that I want to have my worst nightmare of all time, again, to find out answers? I've been wanting this nightmare again for two weeks to find out more answers, but it never happens lol
    It's fun to think that there is some profound meaning in our dreams or something prophetic, but it's just our minds thinking without us controlling it. Movies tend to make us believe there is greater importance in dreams. Like Anakin Skywalkers dreams coming true, or even Nightmare on Elm street where dreams are real. And just like horoscopes and fortunes, plenty of people claim to be able to make sense of it, but nobody can. We just like to be a little dramatic about these things.

    Dreams are just a mish mash of things we know that come out in a weird order. There are no answers.

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