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    It's your dream and if you are feeling that it's representing a hidden sexual side, then you would know more so than anyone else.

    Just say for instance you are bi or gay. What's the big deal? It's only the modern society that has seen this as something unnatural, when in fact many generations and cultures before this one, seen as it completely natural and another type of sexuality.

    There is nothing wrong at all with being bi or gay. Your first step is to come to acceptance of it, whether it be with other people or yourself. Bi or gay is not wrong, nor is it anything to be upset about.

    Secondly, if the day ever comes that you do realize you have a crush on another man, again...so what? It's not a huge deal and it's no different than having a crush on a woman.

    Try to erase the stigma from it and all the bad thoughts you've somehow been taught to associate with it.

    I think if you can do that, the dreams will slow down. Your therapist is right as well to some degree, as you are obviously having a certain amount of anxiety over this.
    No need to be anxious. Accept different types of sexuality, accept yourself and don't stress. Life is too short.

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    It's an interesting dream. There are certainly elements of "you are your own worst enemy" and "you are running from yourself" in it.

    But there's also the possibility that Mike Myers is really just you and therefore not all that bad. He's been misunderstood and really just needs a hand.

    Maybe the "random people" he killed represent unimportant beliefs that have imprisoned a part of you that needs to be acknowledged.

    Or, it could actually mean nothing at all.

    I had a boyfriend who passed by a window in his dream and, instead of seeing his own reflection, he saw mine! Does that mean I'm his secret identity? Hell no.

    What I learned from my therapist years ago, is that dreams are very subjective. Yes, there are books (and websites) that deal with symbolism, but it really comes down to what feels like the right interpretation for you.

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    I've read your previous posts about your sexuality and commented. I'm not too sure about your dream.... But as someone with a psychology bachelor that learnt a lot about Freud, yes dreams can be subconscious and psycho analytical and so forth. But I'm sure it's very difficult to know the meaning unless someone is a therapist trained in psycho analysis.

    I'm not a therapist at all but because you've been posting about your sexuality a lot, I can try to take a guess at your dream meaning. Personally I think you seem really scared of what your sexuality might be. You seem worried and maybe scared of stigma if you were bisexual or gay? You're trying to run away from it. That's what I think maybe the dream represented.

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    You've mentioned in your previous posts that you're newly attracted to men. But it seemed to me like you're trying to convince yourself that you're not. Because you've never been with a guy or had a crush on a guy. You don't need to have done that to know you're into guys. At some point every straight person is a virgin, never been on a date or kissed anyone. Does that mean they doubt they are straight?

    This reminds me of what happened to my old housemate. She was pretty sure she was a lesbian but narrow minded people were saying to her: " But you've never been with a guy, you've never had a penis. How can you say you're lesbian, you need to try a guy". So she slept with one guy and she said the minute the sex started, she knew: "Yep, I'm definitely a lesbian".

    Sexuality just is and you don't need to have done anything with anyone to have that sexuality. Why are you so afraid to be bisexual? I've been bisexual/pansexual for 21 years and it's mostly been pretty great! Lol

    If you're not then that's fine but if you were, is that so scary? Is that horror movie scary? Lol

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    Originally Posted by Tinydance
    Personally I think you seem really scared of what your sexuality might be. You seem worried and maybe scared of stigma if you were bisexual or gay? You're trying to run away from it. That's what I think maybe the dream represented.
    Yes! Good point--Mike Myers might simply be his fear of being gay, not actual gayness.

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    It sounds like you would be better off getting a complete evaluation by a physician MD. It would be a shame to not rule out other issues or address things that could be treated medically. Talk therapy is great support, but make sure you are not dealing with metabolic, neurological or other issues. For example many thought disorders manifest in the mid 20s. Apparently the talk therapy is only helping slightly if you are getting worse and now having nightmares..
    Originally Posted by JCDallas
    I talked with my therapist about this. I've been suffering from HOCD, Anxiety, and Self Doubt about my sexuality for seemingly forever now, but very heavily over the last 2.5 months, it's all I think about.

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    Thank you for your replies, everyone, all of which are very helpful. I don't know why I'm afraid of the chance I could be bisexual. I guess because literally everyone around me isn't, they're either straight or they're gay, and no in between and almost everyone in my area is completely straight, I can count on just over two hands the people I know in real life who are gay, I don't avoid them or anything, one of my closest cousins is a married lesbian and I love her very much as a cousin, it doesn't change the way I think about her. I was always completely straight for my entire life, and all of a sudden a few thoughts randomly pop up in quarantine that stick with me, they feel real at times, but I strongly believe they are false attractions, though there are times where I think maybe I could be different than what i thought I was for 26 years, and living a lie to myself, my family, my friends, when I consider myself one of the most honest people there are, I almost never lie about anything, I tell the truth as often as I possibly can? But Like deep down I've never had a real true attraction to men in real life, and don't think about specific men the way I do girls, so it's just so confusing to me..I've wanted one thing for my entire life, since I was a teenager, this is all I've wanted, and I never really thought twice about it until recently, and that's a relationship with a girl that leads to marriage and hopefully kids, and the fear of maybe I'm lying to myself about the number one thing I want in life more than anything in the world isn't sitting well with me.
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    If I may take a gamble at interpreting your dream it seems to me that you are in conflict with your current reality.

    Are you actually content with the way your life is at the moment? Are you happy with who you are (and I don't necessarily mean this in terms of sexuality)? What life do you actually envision for yourself? No need to answer those questions, but you might want to explore these on your own or with a trained specialist.
    Last edited by greendots; 05-06-2020 at 01:45 PM.

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    Originally Posted by greendots
    If I may take a gamble at interpreting your dream it seems to me that you are in conflict with your current reality.

    Are you actually content with the way your life is at the moment? Are you happy with who you are (and I don't necessarily mean this in terms of sexuality)? What life do you actually envision for yourself? No need to answer those questions, but you might want to explore these on your own or with a trained specialist.
    That's an interesting way to put it. I mean, overall, I'm fairly content with my life. Is it absolutely perfect? No. Not in the slightest. But I'm doing okay for myself. I have two jobs in the career I went to school for, and I'm working towards something bigger and better than both of those. I have a great set of friends I wouldn't change for the world and I love my family very much so. The only things I wish were different about myself were my confidence in myself in general, maybe if I had my own place by now, though it's okay that I don't, I'm still pretty young. if I had more long-term experience with women, and this constant self doubt was over, but other than that I'd say I'm very okay with how everything has turned out, there's some things that I wish were better though.

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    Originally Posted by JCDallas
    That's an interesting way to put it. I mean, overall, I'm fairly content with my life. Is it absolutely perfect? No. Not in the slightest. But I'm doing okay for myself. I have two jobs in the career I went to school for, and I'm working towards something bigger and better than both of those. I have a great set of friends I wouldn't change for the world and I love my family very much so. The only things I wish were different about myself were my confidence in myself in general, maybe if I had my own place by now, though it's okay that I don't, I'm still pretty young. if I had more long-term experience with women, and this constant self doubt was over, but other than that I'd say I'm very okay with how everything has turned out, there's some things that I wish were better though.
    Glad to read that you are content about your life in general! Having said that, you now revealed what you are in conflict with. E.g. Lack of confidence and self-doubt. Again, if I may take another gamble.... out of the things that you wish were better, some are more pressing to you and these are the things that you are most likely mentally worried about. Hence, your dream or at least part of it.

    Anyway, I hope I was of help. If not, I apologise. I'm not an expert but enjoy dream theory at times.

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