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    It does not sound like you need to lose weight at all.
    And you are reasonably active.

    Tell your rude family members to mind their own business and yes that includes your mum. She does not mean well.
    You are not overweight and therefore she should not be commenting on your weight. She should be happy that you are healthy and happy.

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    Thank you guys for your comments, I want to start jogging more regularly once the lockdown is over here.
    As for my family, I usually defend myself, I say I don't feel bad in my body. If I am really upset, my mom apologizes, she just says she doesn't want me to be overweight as my cousin. I told her the other day her comments were hurtful, I hope she understood. I don't want to be going home to visit all stressed what my family will say.
    I wanted to share a picture of myself with you guys but I don't know if it's a good idea 😐
    I am from.Eastern Europe and it's true our culture is slightly obsessed with being skinny so I just don't have the desired body type I guess.
    Usually I am okay with how I look but lately I've realized these comments are affecting me too much. Thanks again for listening :)

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    Originally Posted by kim42
    I am from.Eastern Europe and it's true our culture is slightly obsessed with being skinny so I just don't have the desired body type I guess.
    Usually I am okay with how I look but lately I've realized these comments are affecting me too much.
    Your culture may have a "desired body type" but look around you and you will see that guys are in happy relationships with women of all different shapes and sizes (and the men are just as varied). It is when you believe you "must" look a certain way that disordered thinking and eating can creep in. Please don't go on any silly diets. As others have said, just reduce your portion sizes of whatever food you already like to eat and find a type of exercise that you enjoy. When I needed to lose weight I used a slightly smaller plate so it still looked like I was eating the same amount. I was still eating pizza, just smaller ones! Have a look on YouTube - there is no end of exercise videos there that you can do at home during the lockdown.

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    Originally Posted by kim42
    Thank you guys for your comments, I want to start jogging more regularly once the lockdown is over here.
    As for my family, I usually defend myself, I say I don't feel bad in my body. If I am really upset, my mom apologizes, she just says she doesn't want me to be overweight as my cousin. I told her the other day her comments were hurtful, I hope she understood. I don't want to be going home to visit all stressed what my family will say.
    I wanted to share a picture of myself with you guys but I don't know if it's a good idea 😐
    I am from.Eastern Europe and it's true our culture is slightly obsessed with being skinny so I just don't have the desired body type I guess.
    Usually I am okay with how I look but lately I've realized these comments are affecting me too much. Thanks again for listening :)
    You don't need to share a photo, you don't need the opinion of anyone.

    If you are ok with how you look then fine. Whatever you like. Now, if you don't like how you look then it's a different story.

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    Originally Posted by poorlittlefish
    Your culture may have a "desired body type" but look around you and you will see that guys are in happy relationships with women of all different shapes and sizes (and the men are just as varied). It is when you believe you "must" look a certain way that disordered thinking and eating can creep in. Please don't go on any silly diets. As others have said, just reduce your portion sizes of whatever food you already like to eat and find a type of exercise that you enjoy. When I needed to lose weight I used a slightly smaller plate so it still looked like I was eating the same amount. I was still eating pizza, just smaller ones! Have a look on YouTube - there is no end of exercise videos there that you can do at home during the lockdown.
    I actually found this smaller pizza type and it's much better to eat the huge one! I am exercising even now at home, just not that regularly 😐 I like portion control advice. I don't want to feel guilty when I eat a burger or something so this sounds reasonable.

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    Originally Posted by dias
    You don't need to share a photo, you don't need the opinion of anyone.

    If you are ok with how you look then fine. Whatever you like. Now, if you don't like how you look then it's a different story.
    Thank you dias🤗 As I said I am usually okay with how I look, I am actually happy I have a feminine type of body, it's just my family who made me feel insecure.

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    Originally Posted by greendots
    Your family shouldn't be treating you that way.

    Just to add onto what dias mentioned: From my own experience, losing weight is easier when you tweak your current eating habits instead of radically changing everything you eat (provided that someone isn't a complete unhealthy eater). I'd make a mental or physical list of what you normally eat and then tweak it to make it healthier. For example: Chocolate/cookies/desserts are my weakness so I still eat those, just less than before. I also love cappuccinos. But since there's a lot of calories in milk I often use a measuring cup to limit my milk intake. Instead of eating two slices of toast every day with sugar-free peanut butter for breakfast, I alternate it with sugar-free oatmeal (no milk). Some packaged food contains added sugar or sweeteners, so checking out the ingredients is worth it. Small tweaks like that make a huge difference!

    This covid-19 has really motivated me to eat healthier. A healthy gut is a happy me. So I'm avoiding fast food. I'm not a specialist so here's an article on a gut health that you might find interesting. ([Register to see the link] )

    It's all about leading a healthier lifestyle, becoming a healthier you.
    I do exactly the same for losing a few pounds - a few! -and maintaining.

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    Originally Posted by kim42
    Thank you guys for your comments, I want to start jogging more regularly once the lockdown is over here.
    As for my family, I usually defend myself, I say I don't feel bad in my body. If I am really upset, my mom apologizes, she just says she doesn't want me to be overweight as my cousin. I told her the other day her comments were hurtful, I hope she understood. I don't want to be going home to visit all stressed what my family will say.
    I wanted to share a picture of myself with you guys but I don't know if it's a good idea 😐
    I am from.Eastern Europe and it's true our culture is slightly obsessed with being skinny so I just don't have the desired body type I guess.
    Usually I am okay with how I look but lately I've realized these comments are affecting me too much. Thanks again for listening :)
    Is she worried about weight or health? Tell mom you understand she has honorable intentions and how she expresses them to you isn't helpful. Are you not allowed outdoor exercise? We are -socially distanced -so I power walk (more like a run) daily around sunrise for 30-35 minutes. It makes my day. Today especially the sun was coming through the trees. For indoor workouts (when our workout room is closed, which it is) i love Leslie Sansome walk at home. But I do it with more intensity and for 30-35 minutes because that's all I typically have/can commit to -even on the days I can do longer I prefer the structure and routine -works better for me.

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    Desired body type and genetics are something different. One canít be a desired body type if their genetics states otherwise. However ,you can still be healthy with your own body type.

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    That's all that matters.
    Originally Posted by kim42
    I am actually happy I have a feminine type of body, it's just my family who made me feel insecure.

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