Facebook share
LinkedIn share
Google plus share
Twitter plus share
Give Advice
Ask For Advice
Page 2 of 2 FirstFirst 12
Results 11 to 13 of 13

Thread: Last piece of advice

  1. #11
    Bronze Member
    Join Date
    Oct 2019
    Posts
    188
    Originally Posted by Skeptic76
    Caveat: I agree that itís unwise to proceed to pick this scab, but you didnít ask for my opinion on that. You asked for advice on how to pick it most effectively.

    Well if youíre gonna do it anyway then here is my take: donít start by bringing up anything relationship-oriented whatsoever. Youíre going to have to convince her youíre over her - but not by saying that directly!
    With respect, Skeptic, I laughed at this because it is funny to see the "game plan" from a male perspective. I'm sure this can work on some women, but I also know many (me included) that will not react as planned here at all. Given that every person and relationship is different, I doubt there is any "right" approach to it that applies to everyone. OP, you know your ex better than anybody here. How can you expect any stranger here to help you craft the best game plan to get someone back when they don't even know her?


    Originally Posted by Skeptic76
    If she really does still care for you then the ball will already be set in motion at that point and all you have to do is play it cool. Let it unfold. If you push her or rush it your chances go way down. And of course if she doesnít want to get back together you canít Jedi mind trick her. There is no psychological method to make someone feel any certain way.
    I agree with this though. Eventually it depends on whether she wants you back or not. Any game plan that "tricks" her into thinking she wants you back (if that's even possible) would be manipulative, and the result won't be authentic.

    You can certainly ask her to reconcile again, but be prepared that she may still say no. If you can handle the rejection, I don't see the point in hiding your feelings and playing lengthy games around it. Meanwhile, there is always no harm in working on personal growth and development. If you broke up because you were not the best boyfriend when you were together, think about what you can (and want to) improve and work on that. In time if you grow into a better person she might change her mind. Or better, you might get over her and find a more compatible partner.

  2. #12
    Platinum Member Cherylyn's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2019
    Posts
    2,391
    What part of the word: "NO" don't you understand?

  3. #13
    Platinum Member Wiseman2's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2016
    Location
    Cloud Nine
    Posts
    39,588
    Gender
    Male
    Unfortunately it takes two, so if she's not interested your energy is better spent moving forward than chasing 'the one who got away'.
    Originally Posted by samyc123
    A small part of me would still like to rekindle things.

Page 2 of 2 FirstFirst 12

Videos


Divorced Parents Prefer Technology and Social Media As Communication Tool

Wedding Jitters Could Be a Predictor for a Future Divorce

Botox Fights Depression And Makes You Feel Happier

Men Are More Sensitive than Women when Having Relationship Problems

Friendship Between Men and Women Often Involves Attraction

Infidelity
Give Advice
Ask For Advice

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •