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    sudden stop in communication

    It seems odd that what seems an otherwise continued communication would halt. I mean maybe i was thick headed and wasn't seeing the sign of an eventual stop. The communication was usually as follows: i would text a few rounds and the other party wouldn't get back until a week later. The reason he gave was because he was busy with work. Then on the last time, I sent him a photo of me and updated my facebook messenger profile photo. Nothing else seems to have been drastically changed as the content in communication was more or less the same. Could it have had anything to do with the photo? Its now on the third week and i am thinking i might not hear from him again. Is it possible to just give it time? I don't know what to do here. Part of me wants to keep texting, but the other part of me wants to not text because that could annoy anyone. Please give advice and suggestions. I'm at a lost with this one and fear the worst.

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    Is this the guy you've been trying to get back together with for 2.5 years?

    Isn't he normally not super responsive?

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    Chiral, I am guessing it's the same ex you posted about here: [Register to see the link]

    You need to take the hint and stop communicating with him. He doesn't want to be friends but he doesn't have the heart to tell you to leave him alone.

    He's not coming back.

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    Its not the same person, hence why its a different thread.

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    Originally Posted by Chiral
    Its not the same person, hence why its a different thread.
    Then this is even further evidence that you have trouble letting go, if this is the second guy you're still trying to communicate with after a break-up.

    How long have you been broken up from the man you're describing here?

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    Its been several months. I don't get how people can give up on others just like that. I guess its a bit different cause i blame myself for the separation. I said some hurtful comments that aren't me and i don't know what got into me to be like that. I feel awful about it.

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    It's not a question of giving up on someone. I understand that you struggle to accept this, based on both this thread and your previous one, but it's not a healthy way to frame it.

    It's a matter of walking away when it's not right for us anymore. Your exes both decided that it wasn't the right choice to continue. Whether or not you agree or feel it's fair isn't really part of the equation, to be very honest. It's their prerogative to part ways if they choose.

    Your own feelings of guilt for the way things ended are yours to resolve. They can't make it better. But it might help if you talk about here, where we don't have a particular bias. What happened that led to the break-up?

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    Originally Posted by Chiral
    Its been several months. I don't get how people can give up on others just like that. I guess its a bit different cause i blame myself for the separation. I said some hurtful comments that aren't me and i don't know what got into me to be like that. I feel awful about it.
    You gave up the minute you said hurtful comments. There is no going back from that.

    Why is it so hard for you to understand that people walk away from something that just isnít right? Its called being realistic. Not giving up on someone.

    There is always good reason to walk away from something that just isnít working, there is never a good reason to make hurtful comments.

    That is you? So change it?

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    Sorry to hear this. It's never "just like that". Breakups are a result of sustained incompatibility, unhappiness, etc until staying is more painful than leaving. Then one person breaks up. Let it go. It didn't work. Get help if you have issues with anger, lashing out etc or this pattern will repeat itself.
    Originally Posted by Chiral
    I don't get how people can give up on others just like that. I said some hurtful comments

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    Originally Posted by MissCanuck

    It's a matter of walking away when it's not right for us anymore. Your exes both decided that it wasn't the right choice to continue. Whether or not you agree or feel it's fair isn't really part of the equation, to be very honest. It's their prerogative to part ways if they choose.
    Exactly this. If one person doesn't want to be in a relationship, then you're not in a relationship.

    Does it hurt? Is it hard? Can it be messed up?

    YES!

    If you did or said things you did not mean, take the lesson and work on yourself to control yourself. Think before you speak or act not after.

    Also- anyone that takes a week to text back, you should not be texting at all. You are wasting your time.

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