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    My husband and her sister physical involvement

    Hi,
    I apologise in advance for being blunt in this post but this issue is affecting me a lot and I need some guidance. Its been 6 month of my marriage and I am not happy with the way my husband (30yrs) and her younger sister (23yrs) behave. I read about sibling kissing eachother on multiple islamic websites and found out its okay to give peck on cheek to mehram. But is it okay for a 23yr old girl to kiss her brother on cheeks, neck, hands, legs (including touching his body frequently, and its a two way, my husband is equally involved) not just once in a while but daily multiple times in a day.
    Initially I ignored it thinking maybe my family is strict and siblings may act this way depending on their upbringing and environment. But as days passing, I am realising my husband spend most of his time with her sister, not me (since corona lockdown) and whenever i pass by, I see them either kissing or cuddling each other.

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    I think it's totally inappropriate.

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    These are concerns that should have been addressed before marriage. How come you didn't notice it before marriage?

    It does sound too much and imo most people would feel uncomfortable witnessing it. Isn't his sister married? How old is she?

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    Arranged marriage?

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    Clio- Yes, we did notice it aftr engagement. Infact we had a family discussion too and my mumma actually pointed out about their physical closeness. But we thought maybe they are little open minded family and hugging your sibling occasionally is fine. We ignored it then but now, after marriage seeing it every day is painful.
    She is 23 right now, unmarried. Its a joint family

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    Boltnrun- yes arranged marriage

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    Do you all live together ?
    Originally Posted by Sk3101
    Its a joint family

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    Are you sure they are actually brother and sister? Did you have a very large dowry? This all could be financially motivated.
    Last edited by smackie9; 04-11-2020 at 12:27 PM.

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    No, i dont support dowry system. Overall his family is good. I am only uncertain about his closeness with his sister.

    Originally Posted by smackie9
    Are you sure they are actually brother and sister? Did you have a very large dowry? This all could be financially motivated.

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    Do you all live together? You your husband his family and/or his sister? Why is he with his sister during the lock-down?
    Originally Posted by Sk3101
    Overall his family is good. I am only uncertain about his closeness with his sister.

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