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Thread: Boyfriend's Pornography Addiction

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    Boyfriend's Pornography Addiction

    My boyfriend has struggled with pornography for a while. The porn led deeper into desires of what society deems as inappropriate..and pretty much illegal. I've helped him past that and he doesn't watch things like that anymore. I also found out he would go on Facebook and look at other pictures of girls and masturbate to their photos/face. A month ago I found out in the past (just after 2 years into our relationship) he looked at/masturbated to photos of my one actual best friend. Which I don't talk to anymore cause it hurts. Not only that but to my older sister as well... Which really screwed me up. He says he's sorry and he's actually changed since then it's just I'm absolutely broken inside. I'm so in love with this man, and I'm still with him. It breaks my heart to know that I wasn't first on his mind, I was always last. I feel like I only have myself to trust and comfort me. Everyone that comes into my life causes me some sort of heart break. I've never really told anyone this because I have no one to tell. I don't have a best friend anymore and my relationship with my sister (which has grown over the years) has and is deteriorating rapidly. I barely speak to her nor enjoy speaking to her because of this whole thing. In my mind I think with time my heart will heal and I will have a peace of mind. I've forgiven him for doing those things but I guess I haven't forgiven him fully. I don't know how many times I've cried over this or go look at the photos he's looked at. I'm stuck and I need help, or just some comfort. I feel so alone. Getting Ready for a First Date

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    Your sister and your friend have done nothing wrong, but their relationships with you are suffering because they're being "punished" for your boyfriend's gross actions. If you had to "find out" that your boyfriend was masturbating to photos of women you are close to then there clearly is no trust in your relationship and frankly, I can't blame you. Get rid of him and reconnect properly with your sister and friend instead.

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    You have to make better choices for yourself, OP. That includes dumping this guy.

    I am not sure why you punished your sister and best friend for your boyfriend's behaviour, unless they were actually sending him inappropriate photos. You say everyone who comes into your life hurts you, but I don't see that. I see a woman who still doesn't have the confidence to kick the hurtful party out of her life.

    As long as you choose to hang on to this boyfriend, you're choosing to hang on to the pain.

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    What??!

    You have forgiven him for masturbating over your sister and best friends pictures yet alienating them for doing nothing wrong?

    Do you not see how much more wrong you are doing? Worse than what he is doing?

    He can masturbate over anyoneís pictures , even your sisters after you split.
    Hopefully your sister and friend can forgive you after you split?

    You donít love this guy! You just wish he loved you. Sorry but love comes after respect and he doesnít even respect you.

    You have people to talk to! Your sister and your friend who are innocent parties here.
    So talk to them!!! Tell them you are sorry your ďbfĒ is an and ask them for help in getting you out of this mess.

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    He's destroying you, but you allow it thinking you will fix him. You know you need to end it, but you refuse.. You are withdrawing from decent people and molding yourself around his proclivities.

    Stop being a martyr. You are not stuck nor are you alone. You chose to dump your friends and family so he can jerk off to them? Think about that.
    Originally Posted by Gracie77
    I've helped him past that
    my one actual best friend. Which I don't talk to anymore
    my older sister as well... Which really screwed me up.
    I'm absolutely broken inside.
    I don't have a best friend anymore and my relationship with my sister
    I don't know how many times I've cried over this

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    Your anger is very misplaced.Your friends/sister have nothing to do with this creep. Did you SERIOUSLY tell them that your creepy boyfriend jerked off to their photos online? Unfortunately that drama created is on you.

    It isnít your job to play therapist. You arenít a licensed professional. You cannot ďfixĒ someone with an addiction.

    This guy sounds really gross and mentally unstable. Please dump him.

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    Originally Posted by Gracie77
    The porn led deeper into desires of what society deems as inappropriate..and pretty much illegal.
    Also OP, what does this mean, exactly?

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    Iím response to MissCanuck, Im wondering this too. Itís highly inappropriate and bizarre for him to masturbate to your friendís and sisterís Facebook profile photos, but a whole different ballgame if heís doing something illegal. I donít know what specifically you mean, but a few things come to mind, and that would be the end for me, no questions asked.

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    Report him to the police if he is engaging in kiddie porn.
    Originally Posted by Gracie77
    what society deems as inappropriate..and pretty much illegal.

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    Ugh!! I would never give up a sibling because someone else is a jerk!! If he is into kiddie porn you realize is sexually abusing CHILDREN !!! And YOU can be implicated if you know.

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