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    Neighborís ex partner had covid-19

    Hi everyone,

    Itís me again talking about covid-19! Hope everyone has been healthy.

    Not sure about this situation, but I thought Iíd see what you all think. My neighbor is a single mother of a 4 month old baby. We get along well and are currently in sms contact once in a while to check on each other. We live in a duplex, so one big house, two entrances. Our yards are separated by a wooden fence, but our cars are parked out front next to each other in front of garage. To paint a really rough picture.

    Quick backstory, her ex boyfriend left her when she was pregnant with her daughter. He stops by once a week or so for an hour to spend time with the baby. Iím not sure what their visitation situation is, but I believe she has full custody and he has the right to see his kid... sometimes? They werenít married and have not lived together. She tells me heís generally irresponsible and prefers to party over seeing his daughter sometimes. I donít know him personally at all. Anyway...

    He hasnít seen his daughter in weeks and has been MIA. He sent her a message today and he apparently went on a trip and contracted covid-19. He says heís been quarantined for 20 days and feels better. He wants to see his child tomorrow. Sheís not ok with it, because she doesnít trust his word. I totally understand that and to be honest, it makes ME uncomfortable knowing this virus can travel up to 27 feet. Iíd rather nobody enter the house who doesnít live there, but then again, I have no say in this. She says thereís not much she can do legally, but will contact her lawyer today.

    My question is, what are our rights as neighbors here? Iím fully aware Iím an outsider and have no say in their custody arrangement, but can I be concerned about contracting this due to close proximity? We have a no leave order in place here in the city. I donít know how that affects visitation. Or should I close all windows when I see him approach and not go in the yard for a whole day? I might sound extreme, but this whole situation is extreme... it feels frightening to have him next door potentially.

    Advice would be appreciated!

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    First off... did he have the virus? or was he just in self quarantine?
    If he had the virus, he must be cleared by a doctor. If he is cleared, simple 6 feet social distancing is more than adequate, he won't be contagious.
    I doubt very much he would come over knowing he could infect her and his baby. You will be ok.

    Secondly relax. All this stress and anxiety is what will make you sick. Mental health is just as important and physical health.

    Me I'm still gong to work, going to the store.....I'm ok, so is everyone in my company. My husband the same. We wash our hands, stay a safe distance from people. I don't know of anyone that has gotten the virus.

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    Hi Smacki, definitely have tried to not read too much about it. Itís helping my anxiety for sure! Iím trying at least.
    Yes he was confirmed positive. Apparently the courts are unsure about this one. Iím hoping video chats for the time being are fine.
    Youíd think heíd want to play it safe around his baby, but then again, he went on some spring break type trip and contracted it there, so responsible isnít something Iíd call him.

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    Originally Posted by BecxyRex
    Hi Smacki, definitely have tried to not read too much about it. Itís helping my anxiety for sure! Iím trying at least.
    Yes he was confirmed positive. Apparently the courts are unsure about this one. Iím hoping video chats for the time being are fine.
    Youíd think heíd want to play it safe around his baby, but then again, he went on some spring break type trip and contracted it there, so responsible isnít something Iíd call him.
    Once those disbelievers got a taste that virus, they sure as hell change their tune. 4 days of feverish hell will smack reality into anyone. Once they have had the virus they are no longer contagious. It's those who are coughing and sneezing are dangerous to everyone they are in contact with, because it's airborne in droplets. The virus can shed and adhere to clothing and hair, that's why 6 feet is suggested as to avoid that kind of contact. She can refuse, he can see his baby through a window, or video chat. You living next door is safe. If he washes his hands and wears a mask, that can help too. But since everyone is on lockdown, the cops are just going to send his a$$ back home anyways. She can even call authorities if he doesn't respect her wishes.

    You can still enjoy your yard. Take care of yourself, we will get through this.

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    I don't think you have any way to prevent him from visiting, but your neighbor may have some legal way to stop him from being around her and the child.

    If he does visit, your idea about staying in the house for a day or two is a good one.

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    In fairness, if he was quarantined for 20 days and on Spring Break even before then, it was still around the time "well the flu kills [x] many people every year" was still a common enough tagline. I'd also take with a grain of salt any accounts someone who's pursuing legal action against somebody has for said somebody's behavior or character. Not that I think she's lying. Just not worth assuming anything you don't have to either way when it comes to someone else's baby daddy / visitation drama.

    As far as your actual interests go, 27 feet is certainly one of the more generous estimates I've heard of, not that I'm doubting it on paper. It's not aerosolized, so absent the guy pulling out a straw and shooting a spit ball at your face, I wouldn't be worried about proximity. And any droplets certainly aren't going to be suspended in the air floating toward your house for however many minutes or hours between the time he's been outside and you collecting the mail.

    So I don't know. I don't have a kid, so it's easy for me to say the guy should just forego his visitation for however many weeks on top of the month or so between his vacation and quarantine. All that's between your neighbor, him, and whichever medical professionals he's received treatment and consult from. I'd just keep your head down and your hands clean.

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    I'm curious to see where the 27 feet guideline is published. Can you please post a link to the CDC or WHO where this information is published? I'd like to read it.

    Thanks.

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    Sorry this is happening. All you can do is avoid her completely and pull back from her physically and emotionally. She seems to have very poor judgement.

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    I'm curious to see where the 27 feet guideline is published. Can you please post a link to the CDC or WHO where this information is published? I'd like to read it.

    Thanks.
    FYI apparently it was mostly debunked -apparently as a technicality if someone let out a huge forceful sneeze it potentially could travel up to 27 feet- maybe google it for yourself - but it's so remote and the situation would have to be that extreme. 6 feet seems to be just fine. OP I wouldn't worry about your personal health in this situation.

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    I would just have no contact with her for the foreseeable future if heís going to be hanging around.

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