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My boyfriend well now ex has gone through a lot all his life, like he was abused growing up and things like that. He’s always been used to handling things on his own and shutting people out as I’ve gathered after talking with his life long friend and just from him opening up to me. When we first started dating he kept saying he wanted to do everything right by me and wanted to be good enough for me and all. He had gotten better at opening up and handling his anxiety. Well lately he’s been really busy and has had a lot going on so he’d been distant and I was struggling with work stress and I would get upset with him about that which I shouldn’t have then last Monday He broke up with me. He said he just has too much going on and I asked if we could just take a break a give it time and he said he'll think about it. He said he still loves me. . I don't know what to do. I'm just hurting so bad because he just kept saying I'm sorry while literally bawling his eyes out and it killed me to see him so hurt. We’ve been together for about 2 years and we’ve never really had any problems. I genuinely don’t know what to do but I really just want to fix things and I know we can get past this together if given the Chance. I don’t know what to do. I know he needs space and all but I don’t know how much or how long. The night before last he deleted picture we had together on his social media. I tried Messaging him that night saying I loved him and was there for him but he wouldn’t reply. He was completely broken, crying and crying holding me so tight with one hand and gripping his steering wheel until his knuckles were white with the other hand. He could barley speak he was shaking from crying. He kept saying he didn’t want to hurt me by having so much going on and kept apologizing and saying he loved me. I asked if he still wants a future with me like we had talked about and he said yes. I asked if we could just take a break and he said the best he could say is that he’d think about it

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I'm sorry, OP. I know this is hard to deal with.

 

It sounds like he feels terribly guilty for hurting you, and perhaps angry at himself for not being honest about his fading feelings until now. You can't be there for him if he isn't asking for your help, so I would step back from any attempt to dry his tears. Likewise with trying to work on things. That needs to come from both parties and he currently isn't giving any indication that he wants to try to work it out. If he still wanted a future, he wouldn't have ended it. My guess is he said he did because he feels too guilty right now to say no.

 

It's going to be very difficult, but take a big step back. You are going to need time away from him to help you see the situation more clearly too. Someone who shuts down when life gets tough isn't going to make a very reliable partner in the long-run.

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If you know he wanted the breakup because he wants space, that's never the time to kick it up and pressure for answers. I'd back off and consider myself broken up with unless or until he ever decides he wants to contact you to reconcile. Otherwise, you won't be able to trust the outcome, so what good would trying to influence him do?

 

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I am going through the same thing right now. I feel very alone without him. My boyfriend(ex...) said he has lost feelings for me after being together for 3 years. I begged him to take a break and not fully leave me but he wouldnt, he said he needed space. We broke up last night, I still called him twice today. I have plunged myself into reading article after article after article on breakups and getting your ex back.

 

We can not control their feelings. I hope I have the strength to stop communication after today in hopes that he comes back to me.

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