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    Coping with lack of mental health support for BPD

    This is something I donít like to talking about. I donít want to feel judged or looked at as some kind of mental case. I was diagnosed almost 2 years ago with borderline personality disorder after researching why I had such struggles with relationships and cutting people out. Iíve always known that I had strong feelings. Those around me would go from being the best and twhen I didnít feel like they were doing enough, I would cut them out and be angry. I had a very Trumatic childhood partly due to my mother being mentally ill herself and having schizophrenia and my fathers alcoholism and I believe he had BPD as well. Iíve never hurt myself physically but a lot of the damage Iíve done has been emotionally because I would end dating men who did not value or respect me. I have allowed it because it would validate that I wasnít enough and made me work harder for approval. However Over time the high I would get from being with someone would Dissipate. Iíd leave even though it felt like I was have an apart of myself was being ripped away. I identified who I was through them. Itís an addiction to relationships because I find no value in myself. Iíve always found my value in others especially men. I refuse to be this way for the rest of my life. Iíve done my best to cope and learn as much as I can about BPD so I donít continue to be toxic to relationships with friends family as well as not enter into abusive relationships. I left an abusive marriage After eight years. Iíve done my very best to get a hold of myself in the last year, part of that was seeing wonderful and patient therapistfor BPD. However Iím very frustrated because thereís only one class in my area, Iíve been on a waiting list for seven months. Itís the only method for treating BPD that is affective. Despite the fact that the BPD is very common affecting 3 million people. There just isnít enough mental health resources. I suffer with extreme moods and self hate. I cry constantly over major changes because I canít handle them. I feel sick to my stomach at times over lost relationships and feel confused often as to why. Or feeling horrible about myself that I attract emotionally unavailable or narcissistic men. I want to be better but how am I supposed to be? people in my circle donít seem understand me as much as I try to be open about it. I have ZERO control over it. Iím incredibly sensitive as well. Itís not like I have some physical deformity that they can see to understand. I am suffering and canít get the help I need. I wonder if thereís anyone else who has the same struggle or who can give some thoughts on how to cope.

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    Katie: Sorry for your troubles. Now, I'm not trying to discourage from posting here but I think you would do better on a forum for people who also struggle with the symptoms of borderline personality disorder. Google "borderline personality disorder forums" and you will find support groups of people who suffer in BPD, people who are the loved one of those with BPD and perhaps even clinical psychologists to discuss with.

    I do know of one poster who comes around once in a while who seems to be quite proficient on the ins and outs of the syndrome. He is the ex spouse of a woman that had BPD. Perhaps he's chime in.

    In the meantime, I wish you good luck with managing your symptoms.

    Here is a site that might work for you...

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    ^^^ added a forum site for you to check out if you care to.

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    Research telemedicine. Many insurers have been ordered to accept telemedicine cases/treatments. This may include psychiatrists, therapists, primary care etc. You can video-conference with a health care provider and they can advise you, call in prescriptions, etc.

    Check your insurer, local government sites as well as local hospitals. Also look for online groups forums that specifically offer support for mental health. Remain connected and treated.
    Originally Posted by katiekat3586
    I was diagnosed almost 2 years ago with borderline personality disorder after researching why I had such struggles with relationships and cutting people out. Iím very frustrated because thereís only one class in my area, Iíve been on a waiting list for seven months.

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    Thank you. Iíve tried to find one but the only one I found was not like this where itís easy to ask for help. I absolutely hate this disorder. I want to be rid of it like ten years ago. The struggle is real and so hard for others to understand.

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    *snipped* reposted below.

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    Originally Posted by katiekat3586
    Thank you. Iíve tried to find one but the only one I found was not like this where itís easy to ask for help. I absolutely hate this disorder. I want to be rid of it like ten years ago. The struggle is real and so hard for others to understand.
    Was the link I provided helpful? It is a forum like this one, I believe but it strictly for those with BDP and their loved ones.

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    I donít think it is a condition one gets rid of but more so managed through extensive treatment. My father has borderline personality disorder as well as bipolar 1.

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    Thanks katiekat for sharing your story with sincerity and vulnerability. As you said, that is always risky to do when you don't know what the responses will be. I hope you can experience the support and encouragement you are looking for. My familiarity with BPD is not experiencing it myself but from the experience of having a parent who was and there were marked changes in my dad as well with the treatment/intervention of therapy. But I agree with you that our health care system is definitely lacking in all mental health resources. The need seems to always exceed the supply. What is the class that you are specifically looking for? Since so many services are being offered online right now, is that an option for this resource?


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