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    My fiancé is watching porn

    I’m a 37 year old male and my fiancé of 3 years is 34. We have a normal sex life.
    The other day she asked me to search for something on her phones web browser, she was in the room with me but cooking evening dinner.
    When I started to type the drop downs of recent searches appeared. *porn* being one of them.
    I instantly felt sick. I deleted what I had started to search and typed in the word *porn*
    To my surprise, there was shall we say, a lot of recent searches, it was an average of I’d guess once a week for the last 3 months, what also bothered me was what type of videos she had been watching - it wasn’t anything illegal or anything like that but just, weird stuff. I work late sometimes at my office and in the 45 seconds I had... I could see it was always around the time that I wasn’t home.
    I feel betrayed, I feel sick that she’s *enjoying* watching this stuff, also noticed that one of the dates was my birthday in January, which she had declined intamicy with me that morning, but then watched that.
    Am I wrong for feeling jealous? What should I do? It’s really knocked my confidence.

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    Do you never look at porn or masturbate? (serious question).

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    Do you think she is going to fall in love with one of the porn actors? Or do you feel inadequate "equipment"-wise? Or is she continually denying you sex?

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    Hi there, no I don’t, before I was with her when single I did rarely. But I don’t think it’s right when with someone.

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    Do you think she is going to fall in love with one of the porn actors? Or do you feel inadequate "equipment"-wise? Or is she continually denying you sex?
    No I don’t think that will happen, and no, I’m more than adequate. Jokes aside I could easily have sex with her twice a day without problem.
    And we do have good sex. That’s what confuses me, but say for example I were to try it on, she has said before that she’s not in the mood, but then watches porn the same day :/

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    Nothing wrong with an adult watching porn whether in a relationship or not as long as they are not using porn to replace intimacy in a relationship. Just my opinion.

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    How "weird?"

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    How "weird?"
    I guess weird was perhaps the wrong word as who’s to say what is a actually *weird*
    But the majority was to do with incest “in a sense”

    Little sister this
    Step daddy that
    Big brother watched me etc

    It makes me feel sick even typing it.
    Not something you would stereotype towards a grown woman watching. Maybe I’m being naive.

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    The “family” genre of porn is super prevalent right now! (Well, that’s what a friend told me anyway 😏) Could it be possible that somebody who has zero interest in incest just likes an actor or actress that found success in the incest niche? Or it could just be something so naughty and taboo that it feels exhilarating for her to watch?

    Personally I think it’s pretty normal in today’s society for people to masturbate and to watch porn while they do it...but I can see where it would be frustrating if a committed partner was regularly wanking in lieu of sex.

    The only question i suggest you ask yourself is: Before making the porn discovery, were you dissatisfied with your sex life?

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    Originally Posted by Skeptic76
    The “family” genre of porn is super prevalent right now! (Well, that’s what a friend told me anyway 😏) Could it be possible that somebody who has zero interest in incest just likes an actor or actress that found success in the incest niche? Or it could just be something so naughty and taboo that it feels exhilarating for her to watch?

    Personally I think it’s pretty normal in today’s society for people to masturbate and to watch porn while they do it...but I can see where it would be frustrating if a committed partner was regularly wanking in lieu of sex.

    The only question i suggest you ask yourself is: Before making the porn discovery, were you dissatisfied with your sex life?
    It’s a combination of a few things that are getting to me.

    A) I’m here whenever to have sex. Even just to give her pleasure (It’s amazing sex - her words)
    B) She knows due to previous conversations / chit chat that I don’t like porn and think it’s disrespectful
    C) Shes being secretive about it,
    D) The type of videos she’s watching
    E) She will decline me, then watch porn (you know like when you try it on in the morning (we all been there) and the partners not in the mood **which is fine** but then you find out watches porn when you go to work

    How is it perfectly normal to get sexual pleasure from other people whilst in a loving relationship

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