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Thread: Dating during Corona Virus

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    I came on here cause I was wondering how you were all doing with this coronavirus, and if anyone was going to be playing the dating game during this crisis. And well, here's this thread, lol. I personally am hanging up the hat on dating for a while. I just don't know how anyone could possibly be thinking about dating during a time like this. I think there are a few factors to consider. If it's someone you've been seeing for a while (several dates), or someone you're maybe close to and know personally (not a stranger from the internet), maybe you can trust meeting them or something. But in general, I just think it's a bad idea.

    Additionally, where I live and many other parts of the country, there are state-wide shutdowns of businesses. Only life-sustaining businesses are allowed to be open where I live right now. Restaurants are doing take-out orders only, coffee shops are only doing the drive-thru. There's really no where (besides) a park you can meet someone. And most people (especially women) probably aren't going to be comfortable meeting a stranger in a park with no crowds or people around. It's just a very bad environment to date anyone right now.

    All the dating I've done has been 100% people I've met on the internet. They're complete strangers to me; I don't know who they are or where they've been. And, I think at least 50% of online daters are dating/seeing multiple people at a time. So I don't wanna be getting touchy feely with someone who's potentially seeing other people at the same time with this virus going around. I'm also a serious dater, looking for a long-term relationship. And that's about bringing the best of yourself to dates, having a clear head and conscious. Being able to go out, do things, and enjoy each others company. It's kind of hard to do any of that with this virus going around. It's impossible, really. And, I don't think either of our heads are going to be clear if we're sitting there, subconsciously worrying about the other person or someone around us is going to make us sick. So, that's my side of it.

    I just read yesterday there are people still using tinder, and going on there to hook up (that's never been for me). Who in their right mind would wanna try to get laid at a time like this and risk their life for it? Have these people not heard of porn, sex toys, webcams? They can't hold out for a couple months even to let the medical system get ahead of this? Those people are probably the worst of the bunch, I rank them up there with these "coronavirus challenge" idiots.

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    Originally Posted by Ian4996
    Thanks for all reasonable replies.

    It isn't a stupid question. This is a dating discussion forum and the virus is the single biggest factor in dating right at this moment. And there's certainly merit in discussing option b) even when disregarding c) and d).

    I'm actually a strong advocate of doing everything we can to minimise the spread of this virus. I didn't say this in my original post because I wanted to get an unbiased perspective on what others are doing. I get the impression that some of you have jumped on the fact I'm asking the question and assumed 'oh because he's asking the question, he's going to do c) or d)' but no, that's not the case.

    One thing I would say: some of the above replies to my question have been very angry and unpleasant in nature. This doesn't really bother me and I've had a good chuckle at some of them. But other people might not take this so well. The virus is going to raise big questions for a lot of people's dating relationships over the next few months and people should be able to ask questions on this forum without having other members jump all over them for even daring to ask a question on the subject.
    Ian4996,

    I agree with you 100%. There are no out of line questions on an open forum. And to be rude about it is, well, just plain rude. And I often wonder why people bother to reply, if the topic seems irrelevant or whatever to them.

    News flash: No one is required to respond to any post. If you don't like the topic, you can move on without posting. crazy! i know.

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    In the current paradigm, dating falls very far down on the list of important things, if not all the way to the bottom. Romance itself has taken on a very dark hue. Fortunately, love is something one can never lose by choice, because it comes from within. And sex, as long as your internet connection is working, well, praise the technological gods, lol. There is an opportunity to create ongoing correspondence with people as pen pals, which could include sexual subject matter, if two people so desired. But it’s never gonna go farther than that until we get through this, and we will. Until then, there are more important things to consider. Like being unified towards the greater good and keeping joy, beauty and hope at the forefront of one’s thoughts and endeavors.

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    Agree. Very valid question particularly on a dating/relationship forum. It's on people's minds for sure. A discussion is worthwhile, to express thoughts on this, not to get PSAs and told the obvious about staying home. Everyone knows that.
    Originally Posted by bluecastle
    I suspect the question you asked is being asked by many right now—since we are all very much still humans, with human yearnings, human questions. The entire spectrum of romance—from longterm relationships to budding relationships to those seeking romantic connections—is for the moment altered by this. But altered means adapting, which is what I saw this thread being about.

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    logically i think it would be a good time to breakup

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    Originally Posted by Ian4996
    Hi all

    This is a general question for all the people on here who, like me, have been app dating, looking for the right person.

    How are you going about it in the current climate and (probably) for the next x number of months?

    Assuming you're symptom free, are you:

    a) sacking off any type of dating
    b) still swiping / messaging but only doing Facetime / Skype with people rather than meeting in person
    c) still meeting people but maintaining social distancing (e.g. going for a walk in the countryside keeping at least a couple of metres apart)
    d) still meeting people and doing the physical things you would do normally (touching, kissing, sex etc)

    And would the above change if you'd already had several dates with the same person over the course of a few weeks / a month or 2?
    Sorry if you're getting judgment from all of this. I think it's a valid question. Personally, I would be okay if I was already dating the person & had been exposed to them. Since everything is closed, I'd be fine with Netflix, dinner in, etc. I don't see anything wrong with talking to people/online dating right now to build a friendship to meet someone new when all of this is over, either.

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    Hi Ian,

    I am intermittently active on online dating. However, it seem too much of a risk to schedule an in person meet for me at this time. It is impossible to be comfortable in conversation in a park or while walking 6 ft apart. Much as I want to be loved and feel some loving, I will have to kick it to the bottom of my priority list. Books, 3 mile walks, video zumba's and refraining myself from food binging while working from home appear to occupy each day lately. We will get the love and more when all this is done!! :-)

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    So just an interesting observation -in certain religions the people who meet for dating purposes do sit far apart/don't touch for modesty purposes. I am not advocating anyone adopt that now because of the virus -it might feel just too strange - just interesting how in certain cultures/religions they already date "socially distanced".

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    Article on the BBC website on this very subject for anyone who fancies the read

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    Thanks for sharing the article, Ian. One will certainly need to be creative when dating during quarantine. Maybe this is a time where finally people will put more thought into content when texting, instead of the usual monosyllabic "banter".

    I read somewhere that a girl was considering moving in with her friend, simply because her friend's housemate was good-looking and she could use a boyfriend during this time. (I can't find the article any more.)

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