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    He hasn't actually cheated on me but the lies made it so much worse because I thought he was cheating when he was lying.
    Girl what more evidence do you need? Do you need to actually see the two of them go at it? He has cheated on you, is cheating on you, and will continue to cheat on you.

    I told him if I catch him being sneaky doing anything he knows I wouldn't approve of and then lying about it that I will leave. I know from past experience that I need to have boundaries and stick to them. I just would like an outside opinion on all of this.
    Empty threats as you have already caught him being sneaky and lying to you, doing things you don't approve of, and you are still there.

    What do boundaries mean to you OP? To me, a boundary is something that aligns with my personal values and beliefs... and if someone is doing something that doesn't align with those boundaries, I know I need to have a difficult conversation with that person and walk away if nothing changes. If you do have a boundary about being lied to, cheated on, etc... then for your own self-worth please follow through on maintaining them.

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    Originally Posted by Okieblue
    . . . I don't know if I can trust him . . .
    Actually you DO know. You CANNOT trust him. I'm not sure what you're waiting for but if you have the means to get out now it's a no-brainer, get out now!

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    Originally Posted by waffle
    Actually you DO know. You CANNOT trust him. I'm not sure what you're waiting for but if you have the means to get out now it's a no-brainer, get out now!
    This ^^^. Or to put it another way, you can trust him to cheat, lie and spend a fortune on a fantasy woman!

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    How do you know his story is the truth? Is it easier for him to let you think he's a pathetic man that got catfished by pretty pictures? Than to be the pathetic cheat of a man? because either way he's both.

    Ok. Lets say that just being catfished is true. No physical contact...... How is a happily married man catfished? He started talking to someone on line? How? a porn site? a dating app?

    Wake up girlfriend. This is beyond lying. You are kidding yourself.

    Is this type of loser behaviour what you want from your spouse?

    Let him wash his own cum stained underwear. And since when is a wife a prison guard? If he does one more thing! pppppplease. You are betraying yourself at this point.

    And thats the part in the long run you will struggle the most to forgive...

    You are at a crossroads right now. And you really need to take a long, hard look at your marriage and your husband.

    Look at how he treated you over a picture of a woman... if that's the case. I'd really question how this is going to work out in the long run, because if it was that simple for him to turn his attention from you to someone else... it can happen again.

    I'm sorry I know its not the marriage you probably want, but dont fool yourself into thinking any of this can change by you accepting it.

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    He is spending your money on another woman.

    What do you mean about knowing if you "can trust him?" He has clearly shown you that you cannot.

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    Originally Posted by Lambert
    How do you know his story is the truth? Is it easier for him to let you think he's a pathetic man that got catfished by pretty pictures? Than to be the pathetic cheat of a man? because either way he's both.

    Ok. Lets say that just being catfished is true. No physical contact...... How is a happily married man catfished? He started talking to someone on line? How? a porn site? a dating app?
    Exactly. no one can be randomly catfished unless they are online looking for someone.

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    btw, if it was true that his uncle was having an affair and he was complicit in buying things for the mistress, that would equally be a sign of no morals and scruples. I would see a lawyer without his knowledge immediately. Once you know your rights/strategy, hand him a suitcase.

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    Originally Posted by Lambert
    Let him wash his own cum stained underwear.
    Amen!

    Lots of great advice here, OP. Read it all.

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    Okie,

    Where are you?

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    Okie,

    Where are you?
    She hasn't logged on since she posted early this morning. Maybe she's at work.

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