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    It's the wrong thing to do. It's TMI. Why bother her with this info? Are you jealous that she has a new happy relationship and you're hooking up with randoms?
    Originally Posted by Amebede
    My best friend had broken up with him about two years ago and is now in a happy relationship.

    Me and this guy got drunk last night and it unexpectedly happened. I believe the right thing is to let my friend know

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    I'm with those that said only tell her if you are going to be dating and it leads to bf/gf dynamic. Otherwise, why would you tell her about anyone you just happened to have sex with? Loose lips sink ships.

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    You had a one night stand out of convenience it seems.

    And you want to tell your ďbestĒ friend?
    I get that you want to tell your friend about your night but really couldnít you just have slept with someone else???

    And this was only last night???

    It doesnít sound like you or this guy are interested in a repeat performance so why not leave it as it was??

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    What would be your purpose in talking about the sex?

    If you intend to become a couple with the guy, you can pick an appropriate time, such as when you and GF responding time together, and then gently tell her that you see your friendship with Guy'sName developing into something romantic.

    That's it. You don't need to give her details, even if she asks. If you opt to do so, then don't fool yourself about that 'just being honest,' it's an agenda. In that case. figure out what motivates you to rub friend's nose in this, and then make a better choice.

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    I agree - if you want to date him - i would tell he your intent and ask for he okayness on it. If you tend to never speak of this encounter again, it is not necessary

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    Here's another vote for not telling her. It's none of her business, and I suspect she'd wonder about your motives if you did so.

    If they were still together, that would be different. If it looks as though this is going to develop into a relationship, it would be a good idea to mention it, to forestall any potential future embarrassment.

    Otherwise, after two years and in a relationship... nah, she doesn't want to know....

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