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    Anger Issues

    so iím 19 and basically all of my life iíve always had anger issues. iíve never physically taken it out on anybody (i.e. hitting and kicking), but i do verbally. i have depression, anxiety, bipolar, and add. thanks to medication, i am emotionally stable most of the time. but a couple times a year iíll have a falling out and breaking apart stage thatíll last a few weeks. during those times iíd act so angry to my family. iíd pick fights, cry, give my family members nasty attitudes, and even throw things. i get so angry that i would hurt myself (scratching myself or pulling my hair). this also happens when iím stressed out or dealing with change. last week my 14 year old sister and i had a fight. we argue all the time like normal sisters but a little more intense due to my anger issues. long story short she blocked me and said iíll never change and sheís done with me. this is making me want to fix my anger issues and i have no clue how to, so i decided to ask for advice online. thank you if anybody responds.

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    How about making sure you take your medication as scheduled instead of only most of the time? Also, see a psychologist to help you understand how to exercise self-discipline, self-control and impulse control. Also, pause, think, wait and then if you must, react calmly and intelligently as opposed to becoming emotionally belligerent. Or, learn to walk away and not engage in fights.

    You can't undo the past. All you can do is demonstrate the new you and your new, improved behavior.

    Trust is extremely difficult if not impossible to regain. I'm not saying trusting you again isn't impossible. However, trust is very challenging to regain.

    Once bitten, twice shy. This is how most people are. It's how I am with a lot of people who've burned me. I either sever ties with them completely to the point of permanent estrangement or enforce extreme boundaries with them. These are harsh consequences. Regrettable actions and words can never be taken back. Forgive? Yes. Forget? Never.

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    If you are taking medication, I assume you are under the care of a physician.

    Explain to him/her what you wrote here, and ask for a referral to a mental health professional. If it's at the point where you're self-harming, you need the intervention of someone who is qualified and experienced.

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    Originally Posted by Cherylyn
    How about making sure you take your medication as scheduled instead of only most of the time?
    Did I miss something? Where did the op say medication was taken most of the time?
    And not on schedule?

    OP, itís a great thing that you are motivated to change. Forget the past and concentrate on what you want for your future.

    You are half way there just by the realisation!!

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    You need a second opinion and/or a review of your symptoms from a psychiatrist and ongoing therapy for support and objective symptom monitoring. You may be on a cocktail of medications that doesn't work or counteract each other too much. Your lifestyle and family dynamic may also contribute to poor symptom control.
    Originally Posted by caitlin2000
    i have depression, anxiety, bipolar, and add. iíd act so angry to my family. iíd pick fights, cry, give my family members nasty attitudes, and even throw things. i get so angry that i would hurt myself (scratching myself or pulling my hair).

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    Mental illness is forever changing. Medication needs to be adjusted/changed over the course of your life as well the need to regularly see a psychiatrist. You know when you are starting to see those changes in yourself, that's when you need to seek out additional help and not let it go so out of control, even if it's a few times a year.

    Family dynamic may be a factor, but from my experience with a manic mother, it's usually the mental illness altering your perception of everyone and events around you.

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    Go see your doctor and tell him/her exactly what you said here.

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    Op: Are you regularly see a therapist. Most those that have been diagnosed bipolar are in regular visits with their psychiatrist to check how meds are doing and if any change is needed plus the see a psychologist for talk therapy.

    Are you doing those two things?

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    Originally Posted by Billie28
    Did I miss something? Where did the op say medication was taken most of the time?
    And not on schedule?

    OP, itís a great thing that you are motivated to change. Forget the past and concentrate on what you want for your future.

    You are half way there just by the realisation!!
    Oops, I meant perhaps caitlin2000's medication needs to be adjusted. However, it's best to consult with a medical professional such as psychologist, psychiatrist, physician, therapist, etc.

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    I see a psychiatrist monthly. I used to see a therapist for other issues before, but right now iím busy to see one because of school, my part time job, and track practice. In the summer, Iíll see if I can see a therapist!

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