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    There are lots of pretty girls with great personalities. However, a woman like that wants to share in a guys happiness--a guy who already has a fulfilling, happy life solo, rather than be the sole reason for that man's happiness, which is suffocating and overwhelming.

    It's possible you suffer from depression, so how about seeking therapy to either confirm that or rule it out? And you can't get over anyone when you keep that person orbiting around your universe. You have to go cold turkey and delete photos, past communication, and to stop yourself from looking her up in any way.

    Most people bounce back far sooner when short term relationships fail, so it's another sign you could use the skills of a professional to get you into a good headspace. Good luck.

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    I'm sorry for your pained heart, Ross88.

    I hope you can give yourself healthy distractions such as exercise, family and friends support, hobbies, books, good movies, work hard, etc.

    I hope time will heal your old wounds someday.

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    I am really trying though. The thought of going to work tomorrow is horrible and I've just woken up feeling sick again about who shes speaking to. I'm just an average guy really but she was really good looking, friendly, intelligent and kind.

    I will go to my GP and try arrange counselling but I dont have any time left off for work so cant sort it out. I'm considering leaving my job and going back to my home town where I can do this in a month or so. But what do I do until then. This pain isn't going away and no matter what I do I cant stop thinking of her and what shes doing with others

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    I havent gone in to work today as I'm too down to face it. I hardly slept last night thinking about her dating and flirting with other guys on the dating apps or instagram. I still feel sick and I'm not eating much.

    I know I have to move on but being helpless to the situation and what shes doing is making me so anxious and out of control

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    Ross there's a journal section on this forum. It might help to pour your feelings into one there in this painful stage. You can have it viewable so people can respond or private. Upto you. It might really help.

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    Get to a doctor. This is not about some ex from years ago on an app. You are attributing all this to her (blaming her) rather than taking responsibility for your general emotional and physical health. Focus on yourself. Better health and lifestyle habits. Get fit, cut down on bad habits, get the mental and physical help you need. She is not "causing" all this and you know this.
    Originally Posted by Ross88
    I havent gone in to work today as I'm too down to face it. I still feel sick and I'm not eating much.

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    I am going to go to one when I next can but im not in the city where my gp is at the minute. I will when I'm next there next month.

    I'm not blaming her it was just a shock to see her again. I've spoke about her on here before about how I havent been able to get over her.

    Everything just seems so pointless.

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    It will pass, take care of yourself first and foremost.

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    Been trying to forget her but waking up through the night and morning and the pain is strong thinking about her and the new guys shes seeing. It doesn't help that I have sexual problems that makes me down too so she can do things with them that I cant. Just feel so empty. I spoke to a girl who's a trainee psychiatrist about my issues and it hasn't really helped. She suggested medication which will just make me more numb and empty. Keep getting anxiety that someday soon I'll see her again and another wound will be opened

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    Talk to a licensed board certified doctor as well as a licensed psychologist. Do not rely on curbside consults from students.
    Originally Posted by Ross88
    I spoke to a girl who's a trainee psychiatrist about my issues and it hasn't really helped. She suggested medication which will just make me more numb and empty. K

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