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    No, not everything is forgive able. Iím not sure who told you unconditional love is for partners but thatís not true. Partner love is completely conditional.

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    You've already apologised. You can't keep apologising until you reach apology number 1000 and then she magically takes you back. It doesn't work like that.

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    Originally Posted by ninjabib
    You've already apologised. You can't keep apologising until you reach apology number 1000 and then she magically takes you back. It doesn't work like that.
    Yeah I understand that. But an apology after 5 min. of doing something wrong is not the same as an apology after 3 months of silence for example. What do you think?

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    Originally Posted by RicBoy
    Yeah I understand that. But an apology after 5 min. of doing something wrong is not the same as an apology after 3 months of silence for example. What do you think?
    No difference dude; you acted nuts. Leave it.

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    These posts seem like a bot given the repetition.
    Originally Posted by RicBoy
    What do you think?

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    Leave her alone. Forever.

    Seek therapy.

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    RicBoy. Okay, let me ask you a few questions. 1. If you have apologized "a million times" what makes you think this time you apologize it will change anything? 3. Why do you feel the need to keep the lines of communication open? 3. Do you believe by being around in her circle no matter how far you are, she will look at you as a romantic partner again? 4. Do you really believe that physical abuse has levels? Example would be that a shove is okay but a punch is the next level? 5. Do you believe its okay for you to use your child as a bridge between you and your X? 6. Have you ever listened to your X? Do you respect her? Do you think she needs your help, do you think that her life will be harder without you? 7. What is it you want for her? If you want her happy and if that means you leaving her life would you do it? 8. Do you think you are being selfish or helpful? 9. Have you ever put yourself in her shoes and looked at the situation from her eyes? 10. Have you thought about getting professional help?

    Here is the thing. You have gotten advice and each reply you quickly dismiss it or rationalize your behavior. Its like you are waiting for someone to tell you what you want to hear and you are just buying your time for that one person to say Yes, the woman you abuse mentally and physically wants you back. And by her telling you that she wants nothing to do with you, its just a game to get you back. Is that what you are waiting for?

    Now. You don't want to hear the obvious which is, just leave her alone. Just don't pick up her daughter and completely separate her life and her kid from your life and your kid. You mentioned that you have done that and she got mad. Then you let her get mad because you having your own life is important. Don't justify or rationalize a reason to stay in her life. She has told you that you will not be romantic with her ever again. So why do you feel its important for you to remain in her circle?

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