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Thread: Need advice: should I ask for sex or not?

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    Originally Posted by bluecastle

    For some reason, here, it feels like a record scratch. Feelings, history—that's part of it. Another part? You seem to genuinely care about her, while also genuinely believing she doesn't have a very high sense of herself, "uses" sex as a kind of currency to increase her worth, and you don't want to be a factor in that kind of shady and self-defeating transaction.
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    Yes, that seems pretty darn accurate. Thank you for articulating it well.

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    Please bring protection. Close proximity, "cuddling" can lead to sexual touch. You are naive if you don't think that possible. She is not your 5 year old niece/nephew that you are reading a bed time story and they want to cuddle on your lap while taking turns reading. you have no idea of her true intentions. its BIZARRE that she talked about you as a cuddle buddy when she was dating your boss, btw, She sounds a little wacky so get verbal consent for every move. one thing can lead to another.

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    Originally Posted by abitbroken
    Please bring protection. Close proximity, "cuddling" can lead to sexual touch. You are naive if you don't think that possible. She is not your 5 year old niece/nephew that you are reading a bed time story and they want to cuddle on your lap while taking turns reading. you have no idea of her true intentions. its BIZARRE that she talked about you as a cuddle buddy when she was dating your boss, btw, She sounds a little wacky so get verbal consent for every move. one thing can lead to another.
    Holly smokes. You are so off base though.

    Ok I think that's enough advice folks.

    Clearly I need to find a forum where people who are not so conventional can discuss matters like this without having so many people misunderstand, condescend, and discredit.

    Ty I'm out.

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    Originally Posted by HeartGoesOn
    I think you're placing yourself directly in the line of fire, but that's your call.
    Clearly you are right about that. Peace out.

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    Originally Posted by Seff
    Umm yeah. I mean while it's always good to advocate for using protection, to protect against STIs and unwanted pregnancies it's completely un-needed here:

    1) I'm not a virgin and though I normally wouldn't brag, it seems relevant to state here, that this lowly introvert has actually had a lot of sex. And I always use protection.
    2) It should be clear by what I've stated so far that I'm not in fact gearing up to have sex with her.
    Just saying, word to the wise. You know what's good. Be smart. Not just physically, but emotionally and mentally as well. As long as you're in a good place with everything, it's all good. It sounds like you posted here because you were unsure. If you are, I gave my honest best advice. If you're not, then go forward in your decision with full awareness of the possible outcomes and confidence and comfort in your ability to navigate them.

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