AndieA Posted March 5, 2020 Share Posted March 5, 2020 Hello! My husband of almost 40 years died almost a year and a half ago. Does anybody else have feelings of guilt, for just being alive??? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted March 5, 2020 Share Posted March 5, 2020 Have you read books about grieving such as the stages of grief etc? Have you considered therapy to help you navigate through thing? Make sure you are not dating this old acquaintance to "replace" your late husband. Take it slowly. While "survivor guilt" has been documented it usually refers to catastrophic events. Support groups, therapy and date to be with someone new, not to assuage loneliness or fill a void..https://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=563883&p=7203172&viewfull=1#post7203172My husband of almost 40 years died almost a year and a half ago. Link to comment
Jibralta Posted March 5, 2020 Share Posted March 5, 2020 I think it's common to feel that way, especially if you find that you aren't absolutely despondent at all times. I think we set up expectations for how we are supposed to feel in certain circumstances, and when we don't feel that way we question ourselves. I think that is probably what you are doing. After 40 years of marriage, you probably expected to feel absolutely crushed when your husband died. And if you feel yourself less than crushed, you may worry that you are dishonoring your marriage and your love for each other. But you're not. Your grief will probably come and go in waves. It usually does. Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted March 5, 2020 Share Posted March 5, 2020 Andie: What exactly triggers your guilt? Can you expand on that? Link to comment
Spawn Posted March 5, 2020 Share Posted March 5, 2020 HUGs to you. Sorry for your loss Andie. Hang in there. Link to comment
AndieA Posted March 5, 2020 Author Share Posted March 5, 2020 That it is a good question...it is usually when I'm enjoying a good meal, or a beautiful day. It is not something that is overwhelming, I am not generally depressed. Link to comment
AndieA Posted March 5, 2020 Author Share Posted March 5, 2020 Thank you Wiseman 2. I'm fairly certain I'm not dating to replace my husband. I was curious what others have felt. It doesn't keep me from enjoying life or functioning normally. But it does occur occasionally. I appreciate your input, you are very insightful ! Link to comment
AndieA Posted March 5, 2020 Author Share Posted March 5, 2020 Thank you Jibralta, I think you are correct! Link to comment
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