blacksmith3 Posted March 1, 2020 Share Posted March 1, 2020 There is a girl i've had a crush on for a few months now, its actually (this is where it gets complicated), my old boss/very good friends granddaughter... I have drinks with him every Friday... She recently moved in with him I'm 26, she's 21... Around Christmas time, I started to think she likes me back...When we are having beers in his garage, she just comes and hangs with us, doesn't say much to me, but blushes and giggles when I do talk to her and treats me different. I mean why would she come and just sit with us and play on her phone. Its like she wants to be around me, but pretends like she isn't interested at the same time. Her grandma came and asked her last week why she had makeup on and she got all embarrassed, maybe she wanted to look prettier to me? My friend/old boss would love it if I dated her.. So i'm not worried about the whole "dipping the pen in company ink thing".. But I don't know what to say to her, because she is shy and I don't want to just ask her out in front of her grandpa either.. I've thought about sending her a friend request on facebook, and maybe communicating that way a little bit. I normally would have no problem asking a girl out. I haven't felt this way about a crush in a real long time... I also freeze up a little around her, but I'm pretty good at playing cool. Any advice would be appreciated. It was just me and her in the room for even 5 minutes alone, I'd feel much more comfortable talking to her. Maybe social media is the way to go, break the ice a little and then maybe in person she will be less shy/open. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted March 1, 2020 Share Posted March 1, 2020 Be low key. Ask her casually to go for coffee. Get a feel for things that way. Link to comment
Cherylyn Posted March 1, 2020 Share Posted March 1, 2020 I wouldn't tip toe by taking the social media FB route. I agree with Wiseman2. Ask her out for a casual "let's meet at Starbuck's" type get together. Find out about each others personality and character over time, use your gut, perceptiveness and observation. You really don't know her yet and she likewise. Start out as good acquaintances, friends and see if you two can develop into a relationship. Take baby steps. Haste makes waste. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted March 1, 2020 Share Posted March 1, 2020 Why do you think she's "shy"? It sounds like she's behaving the way a young woman not too far out of her teens would act around an older guy. How have you asked women out in the past? Link to comment
blacksmith3 Posted March 1, 2020 Author Share Posted March 1, 2020 ^I've never had a serious relationship, but i've been the one asked out, the small ones i've had. I was shy when I was younger, i'm still quiet but now I can talk to anybody, so I'd have no problem asking someone out. I know she's shy because other people have told me that about her before. I've known her a long time, but never saw her that much up until the last few months. Link to comment
Cherylyn Posted March 1, 2020 Share Posted March 1, 2020 ^I've never had a serious relationship, but i've been the one asked out, the small ones i've had. I was shy when I was younger, i'm still quiet but now I can talk to anybody, so I'd have no problem asking someone out. I know she's shy because other people have told me that about her before. I've known her a long time, but never saw her that much up until the last few months. Take it very slow! Despite shyness, enjoy a casual get together and make it easy. A great ice breaker is a an intelligent, witty sense of humor as people never forget how you made them feel. That's one of the many attributes which made me fall in love with my husband. He always made me laugh. He didn't engage in goofy, dumb, silly humor. He was amazingly clever and made me chuckle. Also, always remain low key, modest, poised, humble, well mannered, gracious, kind, pleasant and have applomb. Most people love those traits. Link to comment
blacksmith3 Posted March 1, 2020 Author Share Posted March 1, 2020 ^That is all very true, thanks for the advice. I'm trying to get to know her a little better every time I see her. Link to comment
Cherylyn Posted March 2, 2020 Share Posted March 2, 2020 ^That is all very true, thanks for the advice. I'm trying to get to know her a little better every time I see her. You will be fine. Have a good time, blacksmith3. Link to comment
kim42 Posted March 2, 2020 Share Posted March 2, 2020 If you don't feel comfortable asking her out in front of her grandpa, send her a friend request on facebook and ask her out for coffee. good luck :) Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted March 2, 2020 Share Posted March 2, 2020 She cant be that shy if she's hanging out in granddad's garage with you. Ask her out for coffee and see how she responds. Link to comment
blacksmith3 Posted March 4, 2020 Author Share Posted March 4, 2020 So just an update... Long story short, my ex boss/friend is an electrician. His guys who are also very good friends are wiring my sisters house.. I stopped by after work to see how they where making out... I never mentioned her, but they both started saying she had the hots for me. So I think i'm in the clear... Then the subject got changed so that's as far as it went. But maybe this Friday will ask her out. Link to comment
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