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Thread: Does he like me or is he just horny and kinky?

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    Does he like me or is he just horny and kinky?

    I've been dating this guy who is about 2 decades older than me for 2 months now. Before me ,he hadn't been in a relationship for 6 yrs and he is just very set in his routine and comfortable being alone. I'm the opposite I like affection and I show it verbally and with my actions. Hes quite different he says he only shows emotions through actions. He'll cook for me or do other small things that show care but sometimes because it's not a constant thing in our relationship I wonder if he truly feels something for me . Hell ,call me needy but I sometimes like reassurance that the feelings are not one sided. Like there are times where I'll tell him I miss him and I get no response but then I'll ask something like do you want a casual relationship and he says it's not his thing . He says he wants to take things slow because hes been in situations where things went fast and they died out. Maybe it's my past experiences or womanly intuition but I don't know if I believe that . Anyway fast foward to us getting intimate he reveals he has a kink . He likes being cuckolded. I have barely had sexual experiences. I've only been intimate with one other besides him and dont know how I feel about doing that with a stranger just so he can live out his fantasy . I don't want to jump for someone when I'm not really sure where this is going . Sometimes he'll talk about future plans or say things like I'm not asking for the fantasy right now, that would take time and care , in the distant future. And that there are many elements that play into the fantasy. He said he likes being my guardian and protector . I also asked if I were to actually make this fantasy a reality if I could do it with someone I have an emotional connection to , he said no it can only be sexual. Am I crazy or is this man ing with me? We've had sex twice before , could he just be saying things like that to get what he wants and that's it or are his feelings genuine?


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    Ok, what are your ages? I'm guessing you are pretty young.

    My opinion is this old guy likes young girls and he's getting off by having someone like you to have sex with. Do you really want a life like this?

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    I'm 23 hes 41

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    I have feelings for him I just dont really know if it's real for him or not

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    All I'm going to say is that always trust your gut. When your gut is screaming at you that something is not right with a guy, BELIEVE it and head for the hills. Do not try to rationalize it away or convince yourself that his behavior is normal.

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    Twenty year age gap relationships have a 95 percent failure rate. Not that I think this will last, but consider that he's old enough to be your father. Being a woman who has to help their parents out in their elderly years, I'd be really exhausted if my husband was also their age and I had to do the same for him. You don't have the life experience to know that it's much more ideal to have a man going through a similar stage of life as you, and that there are numerous negatives that go along with huge age gap relationships.

    To me, there is something mentally off with a 41 year old man dating a woman of your age.

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    Originally Posted by DancingFool
    All I'm going to say is that always trust your gut. When your gut is screaming at you that something is not right with a guy, BELIEVE it and head for the hills. Do not try to rationalize it away or convince yourself that his behavior is normal.
    this! trust your gut!

    And he sounds awful...

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    Yes listen to your gut. It's telling you this is not right. Odds of it working out are so low they arent on anyone's radar.

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    It depends on if you want an exclusive mutually respectful relationship with someone compatible or you're ok being this guy's sex toy. You seem uncomfortable with his creepiness after only 8 weeks so it's time to reconsider what you want.
    Originally Posted by Ash1923
    I've been dating this guy who is about 2 decades older than me for 2 months now.

    Hell ,call me needy but I sometimes like reassurance that the feelings are not one sided.
    he reveals he has a kink . He likes being cuckolded.how I feel about doing that with a stranger just so he can live out his fantasy .

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    The age gap and differences in experiences create a very large inconsistency on where the two of you are coming from regarding what you want and need from a relationship. It is something that can't and won't be changed. I would chalk this up to a little temporary fun on your part and a learning experience for you and move on. The ground the two of you are standing on will yield no fruit, but it may very well cause you a fair amount of unnecessary pain.

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