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    The quedtion is for guys, when you are unineterested why would you let the plan on her? You just be direct and don't say anything. That is better right?
    I am very direct, and I do not text a word unless I mean it.
    And what type of game may this be? What is he trying to achieve? I am curious. Or he just doesnt want me to feel bad about him not liking me, so he comes up with this just to say something.
    Maybe he has had bad exŮeriences with other people who do not pay for a date? Maybe he means I need to pay this time? It is awkward but I just lost interest on him after those words.

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    Ok, many meets turn out to be one-time. There does not seem to be enough interest either way so in a way you can say it's a match of mutual lack of interest. This frees up any confusion and allows you to simply move forward.
    Originally Posted by score123
    I just lost interest on him after those words.

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    Originally Posted by score123
    The quedtion is for guys, when you are unineterested why would you let the plan on her? You just be direct and don't say anything. That is better right?
    I am very direct, and I do not text a word unless I mean it.
    And what type of game may this be? What is he trying to achieve? I am curious. Or he just doesnt want me to feel bad about him not liking me, so he comes up with this just to say something.
    Maybe he has had bad exŮeriences with other people who do not pay for a date? Maybe he means I need to pay this time? It is awkward but I just lost interest on him after those words.
    I would lose interest, too.

    What did you do on the date? How long was it?

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    Originally Posted by score123
    It is awkward but I just lost interest on him after those words.
    If you lost interest why the interest in solving the puzzle of him? Maybe just chalk it up to a so-so date and keep moving on toward people you click with?

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    Didn't know there was a troll hotline.🙀🤡🙊😾🐭
    Where have you been?


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    Someone asking me to plan the next date would be a turn off for me. Iím a male, and Iím traditional when it comes to courting a woman Iím interested in. That means I take the initiative to ask her out. If she were to ask me out, I would take it as a sign of confidence and a breath of fresh air. Bottom line, if someone is interested in going out with someone, they ask them out. Having someone ask to be asked out is awkward and I would personally take it as a lack of social skills, which in turn would lose my interest.

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    Originally Posted by jul-els
    Someone asking me to plan the next date would be a turn off for me. Iím a male, and Iím traditional when it comes to courting a woman Iím interested in. That means I take the initiative to ask her out. If she were to ask me out, I would take it as a sign of confidence and a breath of fresh air. Bottom line, if someone is interested in going out with someone, they ask them out. Having someone ask to be asked out is awkward and I would personally take it as a lack of social skills, which in turn would lose my interest.
    Dont think that is lack of confidence or social skills. As he planned the first one with so much confidence, he said what he wanted to do and that was nice. He didnt seem antisocial

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    If you'd like to see him again and since he asked you to plan the next date, plan the next date and contact him. Since he paid for the previous date, you pay for the next date. Or, in the future, each person pays for their own meal to be fair.

    See how the next date is. If it's enjoyable, make arrangements to meet again. If he's not good about communicating with you electronically or following up post-date, then it's not off to a good start. I'd reconsider seeing him again IMHO.

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    Originally Posted by score123
    Dont think that is lack of confidence or social skills. As he planned the first one with so much confidence, he said what he wanted to do and that was nice. He didnt seem antisocial
    Yeah, I could be wrong about that, itís just the impression I get. Itís very awkward at best.

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    The best way to find out is to ask him out. If he responds and accepts, he's interested in another date. If not, you didn't lose anything.

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